Post by runmum on Feb 23, 2020 9:29:43 GMT
Ahhhh we are right back where we were when Monkey Boy (now 13) was 7. Aged 8 he was diagnosed with ADHD and responded well to meds. But now he's refusing to take them because he wants to be "natural." He is unreachable without his meds in limbic brain almost all the time!! None of us can do anything. Jealous Dog can't revise for his GCSEs I can't work or take care of the house. Rundad cannot work at home and Monkey Boy is not allowing him to do anything for him anyway as he resorted to calling the police last week.
We have a skip on the drive full of all the stuff he's smashed. He does not attack people he just destroys our stuff and does things that are potentially unsafe that require intensive management. He is trying to control us all and me in particular. When it's just me and him in the house and he's calling me a b*t*h and a wh*re and saying get this for me now female and when I do something inadequately he laughs and says ha ha so now you get a punishment and kicks a ball at me really hard - I just say no thanks my body and heart and not for hurting I'm going to sit in the car on the drive. I can keep you safe but I will not let you abuse my love. He then smashes everything in the house up but there's no obvious alternative. When it's just me and jealous dog we both try to de-esclate him - jealous dog has become a great therapeutic parent
but equally when he has received similar abusive words I take him out to the car as well - which he hates of course. Thankfully he can get wifi on the drive. MB then hurls stuff at the car so I drive onto the road just outside and try to park somewhere with wifi but out of shot.
If he takes his meds he's a different person. Not perfect but reachable - you can do PLACE etc. He says when he takes his meds he feels scared so he does not like it. I am sure this is true as when he does not take his meds he has no inhibitions and no insight. We have tried various types but he says the same with all of them and the old ones stop him eating completely - he's on atomoxetine now.
I think an ADHD mentor might help - someone who has ADHD who is now in a reasonably good place. MB thinks he will never achieve anything and he has stopped going to school because he cannot take the sense of lack of achievement. We are battling on with school but it really is a battle. To make matters worse we got him back to school 4 consecutive days and a TA then told him he would never amount to anything because he'd failed to copy a maths problem down quickly enough grrrrrrrrr. He has not been back since. I think she needs to apologise to him.
Any advice on helping him take meds - Ive told him 50% of he UK population take prescribed meds and so he's perfectly normal. Nothing is getting through and we are exhausted.
We have a skip on the drive full of all the stuff he's smashed. He does not attack people he just destroys our stuff and does things that are potentially unsafe that require intensive management. He is trying to control us all and me in particular. When it's just me and him in the house and he's calling me a b*t*h and a wh*re and saying get this for me now female and when I do something inadequately he laughs and says ha ha so now you get a punishment and kicks a ball at me really hard - I just say no thanks my body and heart and not for hurting I'm going to sit in the car on the drive. I can keep you safe but I will not let you abuse my love. He then smashes everything in the house up but there's no obvious alternative. When it's just me and jealous dog we both try to de-esclate him - jealous dog has become a great therapeutic parent
but equally when he has received similar abusive words I take him out to the car as well - which he hates of course. Thankfully he can get wifi on the drive. MB then hurls stuff at the car so I drive onto the road just outside and try to park somewhere with wifi but out of shot. If he takes his meds he's a different person. Not perfect but reachable - you can do PLACE etc. He says when he takes his meds he feels scared so he does not like it. I am sure this is true as when he does not take his meds he has no inhibitions and no insight. We have tried various types but he says the same with all of them and the old ones stop him eating completely - he's on atomoxetine now.
I think an ADHD mentor might help - someone who has ADHD who is now in a reasonably good place. MB thinks he will never achieve anything and he has stopped going to school because he cannot take the sense of lack of achievement. We are battling on with school but it really is a battle. To make matters worse we got him back to school 4 consecutive days and a TA then told him he would never amount to anything because he'd failed to copy a maths problem down quickly enough grrrrrrrrr. He has not been back since. I think she needs to apologise to him.
Any advice on helping him take meds - Ive told him 50% of he UK population take prescribed meds and so he's perfectly normal. Nothing is getting through and we are exhausted.
