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Post by flutterby on Apr 16, 2019 6:03:21 GMT
Sometimes it is easy for good times to be forgotten, to not register, because I am waiting and bracing myself for the next episode. Sometimes I get too fearful of one of those to come along that I do not actually notice good things happening.
So, if nothing else, as a reminder to myself, I thought I would share some of the good stuff.
On Saturday we drove across 4 countries to get to our home town in England, a 14 hour trip. No meltdowns in the car, we were listening to story CDs, singing songs etc. In fact I was complimeted on my singing skills, "Mummy, I love your voice, can you sing me another song, please?" :-)
Then we had a 5 hour playdate yesterday. LO was so excited to see her old friend whom she had not seen in 8 months and it went swimmingly. Again, playing like a well-adjusted child, giggling, carefree.
Today we are going to meet up with older sister and her adopters - and Butterfly went to bed contentedly last night.
This is major stuff. Long may it last.
Feel free to add your own reminders.
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Post by serrakunda on Apr 17, 2019 11:59:31 GMT
Hope your visit went well
Singing - I use singing as a threat - yes I'm that bad, so if you don't behave I will sing to you !!
Good stuff for us
Scouts - Simba has had so many opportunities - they have built independance and confidence, Last Saturday he did a Monolpoly Run challenge in London
Good friends - the 'Shed Gang' is well established, He has a great friendship group. the manshed has been a great success. They are having a sleepover tonight. I am going to see Hormonal Housewives at the theatre with my ASD mum's group.
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Post by moo on Apr 18, 2019 7:27:08 GMT
Struggling here right now....
School at last the great support I have always longed for.... baa finding puberty tuff... not puberty really but just managing his social inadeqacies & usual 'fitting in'... coping with new feelings plus bullies at secondary school level.... worrying times... just delayed explosions.... things that always have reared their ugly head but much more complex right now...
Self esteem & self regulation stretched & non existant tbh...
On the plus super resilient forming good firm friendships but just the tragic super ott explosions in escalating red mist... wild eyed with noone at home... horrendous & frightening to witness.... Resilience & school support resulted in brilliant week snowboarding... self esteem boost as successfully managed great progress & boarding from top to bottom of mountain great exhileration as only first time away! ....
Wish us luck dreading next 5 week term.... at least school managing & getting it but strict protocols could prevent too many more second chances......
Hugs to all sorry it is not the most positive of catch ups xxx
Xx moo xx
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Post by flutterby on Apr 19, 2019 6:10:20 GMT
Moo, sending hugs and coping juice. Sadly, i ha e no magic wand to fix it all for you and your boys, but please remember one thing. School is overrated. There are plenty of other opportunities, or indeed types of schools which may be better suited to your needs. I know, yet another thing to potentially have to think about.
There is one called Dorset Studio School, which is part of Kingston Maurward College. Unlikely to be anywhere near you, I suppose, but it may be worth contacting them to find out about similar facilities which may be closer to you.
Xxx
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Post by moo on Apr 19, 2019 8:21:38 GMT
Thanx flutterby.. I will look at the studio school, it really looks great so far.. Thanx for the support & loving the coping juice xx
Xx moo xx
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Post by serrakunda on Apr 19, 2019 20:41:49 GMT
Unfortunately I think bullying happens in most school on some level, what matters is the schools response. We have has two bullying incidents involving Tafara, one was witnessed by a teacher - the boy responsible went straight into isolation and was then excluded. Its hard to build resilience in our children, but thats the other side of the coin, helping them to be strong enough to realise that bullies are usually a bunch of idiots not worth worrying over - ' tis hard though
Great to hear the skiing trip was a success
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Post by mudlark on Apr 23, 2019 22:07:14 GMT
It is good to remind ourselves of the Ups.. thank you flutterby for prompting..
Peewit who does have a lot of hurt which can manifest as anger and aggression how has a swear diary. This weekend he became very angry with Mr Mudlark and wanted to hit him, indeed I thought it was going to end in very real violence, but instead went upstairs got his diary and wrote a long badly spelt description of what he thought of Dad mainly consisting of the F word. He came and read it out to him and then challenged him to a sword fight. I then had to go and time it, and referee while Peewit, who is fast on his feet, slashed and jabbed with plastic sword at his Dad who is less fast on his feet. Ended in laughter and bent swords. It was fantastic to see Peewit allow himself to express his anger, control his anger and eventually turn it into something playful.
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Post by serrakunda on Apr 26, 2019 15:54:21 GMT
That made me laugh mudlark, and good for you enabing him to express himself !!
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