LO has been on the receiving end of some pretty difficult behaviour at the alternative education placement she attends. This has led to her being hurt by another child in much the same way as she hurts others.
I'm pretty sure that it is this that has led her to think about her actions. A few weeks ago she announced that she wasn't going to hurt me any more. She has made similar announcements before about things that we / she had previously had no control over and has succeeded (i.e I'm not going to wear a nappy in bed any more) so I was interested to see what might happen.
Well, it's worked. I think we're now 3 weeks later and apart from a few sensory type moments and a true accident, she hasn't hurt me.
We've seen other behaviours escalate as presumably the anxiety has to come out somewhere but I'm currently bruise free. Definitely something to celebrate!
Fantastic - I don't know how LO would respond to this but I started putting a sticker on the calendar to mark a day without hurting, I didn't tell Brains at first, I think it was only in a moment of his own reflection when I was able to point out just how long he had managed, the sticker became his aim and some kind of pride and gave us a way to talk about how well he was doing not hurting.
Mum to DS Brains (15) and DD LittleE (14) with DH my hero
Amazing that she can make such a decision and keep to it. In the end changes can only come from the child understanding the need and doing it for themselves, so that sounds very positive. Eventually she will hopefully learn acceptable ways to show strong feelings. (With your support, of course)