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Post by imp on Mar 18, 2017 0:48:29 GMT
As a Foster Carer I have been having some interesting conversations with prospective adopters for on of 'my' little ones.
The adopters have been told by their SW that they must try to replicate our cot , high chair, car seat and buggy so that the child settles more easily. We have been moving children successfully on for adoption for many years, and while we always pass on information about washing powder, shampoo and bath products, as well as food likes and dislikes etc (and a 'used' sheet for the first few nights in their new home) this is the first time that we have heard of adopters being asked to replicate equipment. We do always pass on their bottles and drinking cups so that they are familiar and of course all of their toys, books and clothes
In our case it will be almost impossible for the adopters to replicate the cot and high chair as neither are still being manufactures (although they are purchasing the same style pushchair as they can see the benefits of the one that we use.)
Have any of you experienced this?
I have to say that the SW in question isn't new to the team and I haven't been aware of her asking this of adopters before
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Post by milly on Mar 18, 2017 7:30:52 GMT
The reality is the child will experience massive changes by moving on. Bits and pieces of equipment can't really mitigate against that. Obviously having key possessions and similar routines to start with does help but surely a small child won't be examining the make of their high chair?! Just having a highchair rather than not should be enough etc. I'd call that sweating the small stuff and avoiding the bigger picture!
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Post by imp on Mar 18, 2017 18:26:12 GMT
Absolutely Milly, and is think a reflection on how so often Adoption SWs really don't understand the children and what they actually need s they move on to the rest of their lives
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