stardog
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Post by stardog on Oct 5, 2016 12:54:12 GMT
Hi all I know I don't say much, don't usually like to commit to writing stuff down. My two have lots in common with most of your children. Would anyone have any advice on getting your child put back a year to easy academic pressures. Mine are youngest in their year and I did want them to stay in reception and extra year but didn't shout loud enough. Last year also mentioned them staying in year one. Struggle with transitions and are also emotionally/socially delayed. Although going down a year is a big change(now)and means they wouldn't be with familiar class mates, i think it would give them a more even foot hold for the rest of their schooling. Would it be worth the upheaval? Our psychologist thinks so but school SEN consortium have major concerns. Anyone gone through this? Thanks
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Post by esty on Oct 5, 2016 15:02:10 GMT
Hi it's a difficult one this. How sociable are they? Do they relate to their peers or are they so at self level it wouldn't matter to them? If that's the case and you can keep them down I would do it if you can but if they relate to their peers then I think the negativity of being seen as not able to go up would be too much. By Year Two/Three they are all well established in peer friendships, groups, etc. are they likely to go to mainstream secondary away from their peers? If so it might be possible to keep them down then. If EP is on side then school should follow if you decide to keep down.
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Post by stardog on Oct 6, 2016 16:20:06 GMT
Thanks Esty Not EP. Just CP for us as family, through after adoption, not the school. Just commented on how young they are and if had been full term would have been in the lower year. One is more social than the other. Other thinks everyone is friend but I think plays alongside everyone else (except sib) always running off to hide. They both changed all classmates this year anyway and not had a noticeable impact. Just normal start of term deregulation. Asked them I they would like to go back and they seemed to like the idea of being the oldest in the class and "Showing the younger ones what to do". They have commented on too much hard work and no being able to play enough. Doubt they would go to same secondary as any of classmates. Just don't want them to be always struggling when it could be that they just not ready. I noticed past few years they where doing by end of year what everyone else could do at start of year. After three weeks back they had settled down and teachers think (yet again) everything is 'fine'. Come start of next term all starts again and the teachers are surprised at regression.
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Post by esty on Oct 6, 2016 19:02:17 GMT
In which case I'd be strongly arguing to hold them back a year with the professional support that you have.
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