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Livid
Sept 19, 2016 19:39:34 GMT
Post by monkey on Sept 19, 2016 19:39:34 GMT
LO has been given a book at school as a reward.......Young Samurai, The Way of Fire - about a boy who was shipwrecked and his father being killed by Ninjas. I cannot believe that after all the discussions we've had with them recently about her being obsessed with killing and hurting others on a daily basis, that they could have considered this to be suitable. I'm told that she chose it; I'm sure she did. The cover is black, red and gold and has a boy with a large sword on the front. Why would a child who's having some sort of mental health crisis choose a pink book about ponies?! Perhaps I need to contact them, like I did my sister-in-law last night, when I'm desperately trying to save the cat because "he needs to die", when I'm telling my BD to lock herself in the bathroom to stay safe or when I'm sat restraining her being headbutted in the chest because I don't know what else to do. Perhaps the reward next week will be a Samurai sword to practise the skills she learns from the book.
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Livid
Sept 19, 2016 20:38:41 GMT
Post by leo on Sept 19, 2016 20:38:41 GMT
Oh that's awful. You have every right to be outraged - and to make a complaint. Sadly it seems to prove what you already knew - that they simply cannot understand her trauma or associated behaviours. I am so sorry.
Are you able to escalate the talks with professiinals and make them realise a suitable residential school placement is now critically urgent?
Is there someone who can come and be an extra supportive adult whenever your daughter is at home to help keep you all safe? (Much like Daffin's nanny)
I know it may well be too much at the moment - but are you able to keep a short daily log of behaviours for even just a week to show professionals how relentless and dangerous it is?
I hope someone is there for you practically as you need unconditional support - and more than a few hugs I should think!
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Livid
Sept 19, 2016 20:56:33 GMT
Post by monkey on Sept 19, 2016 20:56:33 GMT
Thanks Leo. There is another professionals meeting this week and I think they are prioritising it. We are using our support network and one of our neighbours is coming in each morning to help us. I kept a diary for 2 weeks including photos of the bruises, scratch marks and bites that we received in the period. I think it was this that convinced the SW. Really appreciate your support xx
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Post by leo on Sept 20, 2016 20:04:22 GMT
Yes, it was the daily log of events that worked here too, they just didn't get it before then. Would it be worth showing the log to school as well? (Our relationship with school had broken down too much for it to be worthwhile at that point but it may help even just one person understand?)
I am glad you have an active support network, I think it's the adults involved who need the unconditional love more than the children sometimes!
Are you able to research suitable placements (not just in your LA but within what you would consider reasonable travelling distance) before your meeting later in the week? In my experience, social services and other professionals like to be given possible solutions and the discussion can sometimes then be far more focused. I know how hard it is to achieve anything/organise your thoughts when you are under such stress.
I don't know if you've tried this in the past but one other suggestion would be to phone family futures for one of their free parent consultations as they may be able to suggest other schools/placements/avenues of support.
Stay strong and live in hope that, at some point, your daughter will be able to recognise just how much you have done to support her and meet her needs no matter how or where that takes place. You have been amazing to fight for the right help for so long and it is a testament to you that she has even the occasional day where things are calm and go well.
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Livid
Sept 26, 2016 21:13:51 GMT
Post by serrakunda on Sept 26, 2016 21:13:51 GMT
stupid, stupid people.
how did the meeting go ?
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