Post by daffin on Jul 9, 2016 5:26:46 GMT
Hi all
Monkey Boy was punched in the face by his best friend at school on Thursday. I haven't been able to unpick what happened in the lead up and MB is fully capable of being so annoying that you want to hit him but, I think his explanation rings true... The friend hit him for no reason, as soon as he saw him arrive. My interpretation.....Monkey Boy was out all morning and arrived at school at lunchtime and went into the school to play. His little friend had missed him/ felt abandoned all morning and reacted to MB swanning back in by getting annoyed and punching him.
The the little friend witnessed domestic violence as an infant/small child and his parents have just finished going through a messy custody battle. There's a lot going on in his life!
my problem....
We have a home-school book. It lives in MB's school bag and is there to record any behavioural incidents and any outstanding positives. Despite meeting with someone from the virtual school and 3x our child psychologist the school still don't use it and don't look at it unless I also leave a message at the school office prompting them to do so.
on this occasion they didn't use the book. Nor did they tell me face to face. A white accident slip was in MBs book bag 'hit in face. Cold compress applied'. Could have been hit by a football. By accident.
MB said nothing. Volunteering information isn't his thing. His behaviour was all over the place, particularly during bedtime, but that could have been something else. I found out through text from little friend's Mum, cancelling a play date the following day - because little friend was too upset.
Checked in with class teacher at drop off. She hadn't seen the incident, didn't know how it had started and assured me that little friend had been punished.
I don't feel better!
I don't one want little friend punished!
I want the school to understand that communicating with us matters.
I want them to think differently about discipline - behaviour is communication etc
And I want them starting a nurture group, including the 2 boys.
What do you guys think?!
I'm having a meeting with our SW and virtual school and child psych next week anyway (because of our frustrations that school just don't get it)
Monkey Boy was punched in the face by his best friend at school on Thursday. I haven't been able to unpick what happened in the lead up and MB is fully capable of being so annoying that you want to hit him but, I think his explanation rings true... The friend hit him for no reason, as soon as he saw him arrive. My interpretation.....Monkey Boy was out all morning and arrived at school at lunchtime and went into the school to play. His little friend had missed him/ felt abandoned all morning and reacted to MB swanning back in by getting annoyed and punching him.
The the little friend witnessed domestic violence as an infant/small child and his parents have just finished going through a messy custody battle. There's a lot going on in his life!
my problem....
We have a home-school book. It lives in MB's school bag and is there to record any behavioural incidents and any outstanding positives. Despite meeting with someone from the virtual school and 3x our child psychologist the school still don't use it and don't look at it unless I also leave a message at the school office prompting them to do so.
on this occasion they didn't use the book. Nor did they tell me face to face. A white accident slip was in MBs book bag 'hit in face. Cold compress applied'. Could have been hit by a football. By accident.
MB said nothing. Volunteering information isn't his thing. His behaviour was all over the place, particularly during bedtime, but that could have been something else. I found out through text from little friend's Mum, cancelling a play date the following day - because little friend was too upset.
Checked in with class teacher at drop off. She hadn't seen the incident, didn't know how it had started and assured me that little friend had been punished.
I don't feel better!
I don't one want little friend punished!
I want the school to understand that communicating with us matters.
I want them to think differently about discipline - behaviour is communication etc
And I want them starting a nurture group, including the 2 boys.
What do you guys think?!
I'm having a meeting with our SW and virtual school and child psych next week anyway (because of our frustrations that school just don't get it)