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Post by elderberry on Dec 17, 2015 19:16:56 GMT
DD has just come home from school for the holiday with an enormous pile of presents -- I mean huge. About £80 worth, at a guess. I suppose there are lots of children in care and the school presents are really important to them. What amazed me was that, after picking out a couple of them, she handed the rest to me and asked me to wrap them and put them under the tree (note to self: put up tree). I realise part of this is that there's no anxiety involved because she already knows what everything is. But even so, the notion of being able to forgo a big box of Lego, a £20 Claire's voucher and a load of toiletries for the next eight days is extraordinary. Maybe she's finally no longer scared that they'll be taken off her if she doesn't have them and use them immediately!
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Post by serrakunda on Dec 17, 2015 19:41:58 GMT
Wow, lucky DD, hope she enjoys them on the big day
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Post by mudlark on Dec 17, 2015 21:58:07 GMT
Sounds sensible....I have told Lapwing and Peewit what nearly all their presents are.....it has helped reduce a lot of stress
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Post by milly on Dec 17, 2015 23:13:28 GMT
Mine produce present lists which they really see as an order to be fulfilled - younger dd is particularly serious about her list. Family members pick from the list and dd has already seen the parcels / boxes arrive at our house. She unerringly picks them out for what they are by the size of the box - it's quite irritating! But then she does like to 'know' everything up ahead as it makes her feel safe.
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Post by corkwing on Dec 18, 2015 9:26:41 GMT
Mackerel once said to Kermit (about presents): I don't like surprises. I had lots of bad surprises in my birth family.
We tell him what he's getting.
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Post by caledonia on Jan 4, 2016 14:03:33 GMT
what perceptive children and parents there are here. Surprises can be scary and its great that this can be managed so that some of the pleasure of Christmas can remain.
cale x
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