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Post by twoplustwo on Nov 11, 2015 23:44:41 GMT
Romantic and/or sexual? Stig is 15 and shows little interest in 'getting together' with anyone. I'm wondering if it's normal for teenage lads not to be very interested at this stage or whether he won't ever want a serious relationship because of his ASD. I've long since accepted that he is 'different' and I don't mind that much if he chooses not to form serious relationships (in some ways it would make life far less complicated) but it would be nice to know how likely it is.
He's gone through most of his school life without any real friends - he talks to people but there's never been a 'connection' there. It's never bothered him though. He used to get obsessed with people (in a non-sexual way) but that seems to have stopped. In the last year and a half he's made his first friend. A boy in his year group, Stig is the other lad's first friend too.
So what do you people think? Are most 15 year old boys happy to stick with friends and not pair off or is Stig unusual in this?
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Post by ham on Nov 12, 2015 6:55:26 GMT
My son is 23 and does not have friends as such.from about 18 he talked of having a girl friend so along with his carer she took him out with other youngsters she worked with. He actually went to school with one of them and they are now a 'couple'' but they only see each other when carer arranges it and she chaperones them . They don't have a typical relationship ,they don't hold hands , kiss etc but just each other presents .it suits them
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Post by pluto on Nov 12, 2015 8:25:18 GMT
It depends how severe his autisme is and how able he is intellectually.
Generally autistic people struggle in relationships, and very few are able to have meaningfull long term relationships with partners.
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Post by runmum on Nov 14, 2015 17:29:26 GMT
Neither of my two have ASD but I do know several adults with ASD. Remember it's a spectrum. One man i worked with certainly struggled with showing and understanding emotions but he was happily married with two children and his wife who does not have ASD just adapted to he quirkiness as she put it. Another young girl I know is quite severely autistic - needs ongoing adult support. She is very keen on romantic relationships and tends to have them with other people with ASD - not all that successfully and her ASD is certainly a factor in that and theirs no doubt. If he's not interested I would be relaxed about it but he may be interested in future and might need some sensitive support - you will judge best as his parents.
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Post by corkwing on Nov 15, 2015 14:42:34 GMT
My guess is that a 15 year old boy would very probably have large amounts of testosterone sloching around inside them. That would make them attracted to the opposite sex: they'd notice girl's/women's bodies and very probably have sexual yearnings.
Whether they'd be willing or able to do anything about it - like asking a girl out - would be a completely different matter, as would talking to your mum about it. Yeugh!!!! On a scale of 1 to embarrassment, that's just unthinkable!
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Post by damson on Nov 15, 2015 19:35:03 GMT
Yes, your DS will probably keep it particularly quiet from you...
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Post by bop on Nov 16, 2015 8:27:58 GMT
Must be 13 here - DS declared yesterday that he had the love disease - he has a complete crush on a friend of his, who happens to also be his third cousin, and seeing them to gether over the weekend I think its mutual!! He can't understand why DH and I think its so funny....
Bop
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Post by caledonia on Nov 18, 2015 10:44:53 GMT
DS is 15 and has, I am sure ADS traits which we are struggling to get a diagnosis for - well actually struggling to see anyone as the local CAMHS does not deal with teenagers with ASD?!
He has friends at school but not many and he is not interested in seeing them out of school. Although he has had crushes on girls he is not interested in taking it further. He would rather play on his ipad or PS4, or when his testosterone is up look at porn on line! From what I can tell, all of his friends are the same so I think it is more of a generation thing as they have friends of both sexes as friends now. DD's best friend is a boy and it is totally plutonic.
Cale
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Post by corkwing on Nov 18, 2015 12:00:07 GMT
Must be 13 here - DS declared yesterday that he had the love disease - he has a complete crush on a friend of his... I'd fallen in love with three different girls before I left junior school. Sprat got upset over something with a girl in his class when he was 11, so similar age. And no, he didn't tell us anything about it. His sister explained to us a bit of why he'd gone off in a big strop. We'd had no idea that he was interested in this girl. |
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