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Post by daffin on Nov 7, 2015 23:05:14 GMT
I'm just back from AUK's conference, where I heard Bryan Post speak. He was inspirational - and funny, with excellent comic timing. I came way feeling uplifted.
My take away messages from the day:
- Breathe. Use breathing technique (described in the attachment) to calm your own stress
- Fear and stress triggers behaviours. Negative behaviour from children is triggered by their stress/ fear
Find calm. To address your child’s behaviour you need to bring down their level of stress – to do this you need to be calm yourself. Breathe. Slow everything down.
- Avoid fear-based parenting
- Love. Loving interactions trigger the release of oxytocin, which in turn enables love to grow – crucial for attachment
Full summary attached. Bryan Post - AUK Conference 2015.docx (30.94 KB)
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Post by moo on Nov 8, 2015 6:26:21 GMT
Hey daffin Thanx for your report... glad you enjoyed it...Sadly I couldn't download... don't know if it is my dinosaur tablet or the dinosaur using it?  ...Just me then!! ... I'm used to being the dinosaur in the corner!??  .... Thanx daffin....Xx moo xx
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Post by daffin on Nov 8, 2015 8:51:54 GMT
Thanks for letting me know. I could download it when I tried just now. Anyone else having problems?
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Post by rosie on Nov 8, 2015 12:34:52 GMT
I managed to download it, but first time I couldn't because I forgot to log in! Thank you for posting about it, it very interesting; wish I Could have gone.
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Post by bop on Nov 8, 2015 20:59:43 GMT
Thanks - that is great - just skimmed the attachment - need to read it properly sometime...
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Post by flossie on Nov 9, 2015 11:36:19 GMT
Thanks Daffin, that's great!
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Post by runmum on Nov 9, 2015 15:04:45 GMT
Thank you so much Daffin. Downloaded straight away to my Mac. Really good revision for stuff done previously but not always put into practice. Loads of this resonates. Have tackled sleep and 60% sibling rivalry. Food and the rest of the sibling rivalry is now my next priority along with getting better and better at being totally calm and helping run dad to do the same (tricky one.) However we have used medication and in my personal opinion the meds for ADHD make Monkey Boy more available to the Therapeutic Parenting. So slight difference of experience there but still it's really helpful stuff. Thanks again for taking the time in your busy life to help those who could not go.
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Post by daffin on Nov 9, 2015 22:43:16 GMT
Thanks all. I wrote it up on the train on the way home... buoyed up by enthusiasm!
As you say, runmum, it's more a reminder of things we already know, rather than something radically new. I did find his enthusiasm for diet interesting though, and his emphasis on making and keeping a connection with your child (above all else) and the need to slow everything down, so you're not having a knee-jerk reaction to your child's behaviour.
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Post by pingu on Nov 9, 2015 23:38:50 GMT
Thanks Daffin.
Can you just remind us what 10-20-10 is about?
Thanks
Pingu
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Post by daffin on Nov 10, 2015 7:06:14 GMT
Yes. You are recommended to spend 10 minutes with your child in the morning playing a game / doing an activity of their choice. Then 20 minutes in the afternoon and 10 mins before bed. Hard if you've got siblings but otherwise you'd hope people would be doing this anyway. But the 10-20-10 is a reminder not to get lost in housework and parallel activities but really focus on your child. Whatever their age.
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Post by pingu on Nov 10, 2015 10:15:46 GMT
thanks Daffin
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Post by flutterby on Nov 11, 2015 7:53:31 GMT
I can't open the file either.:-(
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.... Thanx daffin....
