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Post by gilreth on Oct 15, 2013 21:20:06 GMT
Day 9
How did today go? Well I feel. The boy & FC arrived as expected - with another load of stuff - including first set of clothes. FC left with boy being pretty upset as she went - I tried to soothe him and was starting to get laughter as well as tears when his SW arrived. After about 15 mins he was fine - distracted him with the glass pebbles in glass bowl on our windowsill which he'd played with yesterday - posting them all behind the fire guard then. Today it was down gap in radiator - but it kept him amused and cheered him up. His SW didn't stay very long but by the time she went he was happy.
We spent the morning playing - and investigating the house more. Again Henry-cat was very patient as the boy fussed him sat on our bed. We played with cars all over the house and watched Fireman Sam snuggled together on the settee. He bounced on me and with my help on the floor. He loves me holding him under arms and bouncing. We played peekabo round the lounge curtain and hide and seek round the dining table. Lots of eye contact as I could get it.
Getting lunch he came into kitchen with me and tried to open doors and drawers - very glad we had safety locks on them all. We ate and raced on a banana at end. Then it was into the car and off to T's pharmacy. The boy feel asleep on the way, woke up after we arrived and then fell asleep in Daddy's arms. So not much of a visit but was pleased to see Daddy. Tomorrow I have decided we go before lunch in the hope he will be awake to see T. Coming back he slept more, woke up when I got him out the car seat and out of his coat. I brought him upstairs to his bedroom and sat down in the rocking chair with him in my arms. He snuggled down and feel asleep on me - tears in my eyes at this point. Eventually I moved him onto the bed and he slept till about 15 mins before FC was due to pick him up when I woke him up Changed nappy and took him down where he watched a bit more Fireman Sam, which gave FC and I chance to put his slide & swing into garage. The boy gave me a kiss and a cuddle before he left.
Tomorrow I get to pick him up from FCs and then we spend the entire day togther - dropping him back at bedtime so he should see Daddy twice. Last day of T working for 11 days - not been ideal during Intros but all agreed best for the boy.
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Post by gilreth on Oct 15, 2013 21:23:59 GMT
be careful about putting locks on doors to rooms (even hook and eye can count as a lock). I know its daft but sw's hate locks and can be a very anti. might be wise to run the idea past yours before they see them (some are more open minded than others). I was accused of impeding a childs development simply for using stair gates (standard and obligatory safety equipment as a fc of babies and toddlers), when I suggested a lock on a door instead of a gate you'd have thought i'd suggested tieing the child up and throwing her into a cage! I kid not. hopefully you are working with more sensible sw's than I have had the misfortune to work with. but glad intros are going so well. on the home stretch now! Ours has been fine with the ones we already had up and said nothing against it when I talked to her yesterday about the idea. Stair gates definitely required safety features in my LA. Home stretch indeed - looks like moving in will be Saturday (unusual but my sister is an experienced adopter so is support for us if needed)
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Post by loadsofbubs on Oct 16, 2013 6:44:36 GMT
impressed you can get a sw out on a Saturday for the handover!! like pulling teeth here to find a sw willing to come out on a Saturday!
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Post by moo on Oct 16, 2013 7:11:05 GMT
WoW gilreth sounding fab.... Well done you.....
Can't wait to hear about whole day tomorrow..... Deffo home straight.....
Xx. moo. Xx
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Post by gilreth on Oct 16, 2013 21:07:57 GMT
Day 10Last solo day during Intros yeah Full day today - well from when I picked the boy up at 9.30 till just before bedtime at 18.45. It went well other than FC having to put boy into car seat first thing that is. We came home and played a bit and had Fireman Sam on in background at times. Saw Henry-cat before he scarpered for the day and drew pretty pictures on my iPad. Eventually we set off for T's pharmacy - he didn't fall asleep quite as quickly today but was asleep by the time we arrived. However he woke up again and was very glad to see Daddy. Spent about 30 mins or so there - we ran in circles round the shop floor (only one customer in during time we were there). He went through to dispensary in T's arms and had it explained to him that he should not go through there without one of us. Drove back with a sleeping boy but arrived home in heavy rain so the boy woke up when I got him out the car and promptly stayed awake. Another fun afternoon of playing with cars and bouncing on Mummy ensued. He came into kitchen with me as I prepared the evening meal for us all. Fed him at his usual time and was pleased when he enjoyed the meal - it was something I'd been told he would eat but wasn't sure he would et my version I fed him most of two yoghurts although he managed part of the second himself as I had to answer the door. Played a bit more before he had his bath which he really enjoyed and didn't want to get out of. Just got him dressed in pyjamas when Daddy arrived home which he loved. Eventually we had to reluctantly take him back to FC's. Review meeting tomorrow and then full day with us both. Hoping for move in on Saturday....
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Post by phoebe on Oct 16, 2013 21:16:29 GMT
Sounds so exciting, Gilreth. Hope tomorrow is great too. Get loads of sleep ready for this weekend. Bet you are aching from your smile! Do you have plans for Sunday? x
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Post by Deleted on Oct 16, 2013 21:47:26 GMT
Sounds like it's going really well gilreth. Only two sleeps to go till LO is home for good. Make sure you get some sleep between now and then because if you're anything like me, I didn't sleep a wink the first night my two came home - kept creeping in just to look at them. There is nothing sweeter than a sleeping child especially when it's your own.
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Post by moo on Oct 17, 2013 2:54:41 GMT
Well done gilreth all sounding so perfect....
Thinking of you at the review..... Hope you get your move in day as planned.... Enjoy the rest of intros.......move in day getting oh so close YaY.....
Xx. moo. Xx
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Post by gilreth on Oct 17, 2013 21:55:11 GMT
Day 11What a day. Started well with review meeting showing that everyone felt things were going well. Ok T spent most of it amusing the boy but he still contributed. Moving in day was moved forward to Saturday So one more day of this strange situation - and as T pointed out coming back this evening we do not drop him back at FCs again. Rest of day went equally well - went to local park and fed the ducks - well geese mainly in case of the boy. He did however manage to measure his length twice by running along and not being completely balanced. No crying - just when we insisted he took a hand when a car was around and we were on road. Then off to do weekly shop which was interesting given his dislike of staying in the trolley, or holding hands. Can see online shopping being the way forward with an occassional quick visit for bits as coping with him by myself would not be fun. Anyway after all that he had snacked a fair amount, and fell asleep in car on way home. He'd been up at 5.30 so we let him sleep - woke up when I got him out the car at home, but a few minutes snuggling with Mummy in rocking chair and he was back to sleep again. Once again he showed that he has some bond to me as I could soothe him and get him back to sleep. Meant we got our lunch in peace. Woke him up after an hour to try to keep him tired so he gives FC a later start tomorrow - we shall see in morning. We played for a bit and watched a bit of Fireman Sam (well it was background noise). Then we put him in all in one waterproof and into carrier on Daddy's back for a wander down to the reservoir at bottom of hill from us. He loved being in carrier so suspect we are going to get a better adjustable one so we can do our walking. However while feeding ducks & swans he managed to slip down to join them. I was a fraction too late in catching him so went in myself and got him out - luckily very shallow where we were (deliberately as knew edges were slippery). He was upset for a while but soon cheered up in Daddy's arms - Mummy had very wet feet as well given she had to go deeper to get him up bank. Got back home and dressed in clean dry clothes (third pair of trousers for the day) and cleaned up as well. Slight graze on face but as I said to T (& FC said later) it was the boy being a boy. Graze isn't worrying him at all. Played a bit more and then he went into kitchen with T while meal was prepared. Ate a fair amount of his pasta and his 2 small fromage frais before playing with his cars again. Mainly the tractor & trailer he got from one of the other FCs who was at his leaving party last Sunday. Decided after unexpected dip we would bath him this evening so I did - didn't like having his hair washed and Daddy had to help with teeth clean, but otherwise fine. Slightly later leaving than planned to go back to FC as Henry-cat finally put in an appearence and while he ate his meat (treat) the boy gave him a bit of a fuss. Taking advice from Twitter friends about geting cat to associate him with treats. Returned to FC and arranged pick up time tomorrow morning. Last day of Intros which is a great feeling - as well as making me apprehensive as come Saturday 9am he is all ours. Tomorrow his FC is bringing her other 2 foster kids round to see where the boy is going to live before they all go out for a final meal with another FC + kids who ahd to miss Sunday's party due to illness. Tomorrow is the last day - I have to keep telling myself this. On Saturday he comes home for good.
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Post by moo on Oct 18, 2013 4:15:15 GMT
YaY..... WoW you are becoming quite the pro!! So well handled the paddling Incident!!
enjoy your last day of intros...... That collect on Saturday will be oh so memorable......
Xx. moo. X
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Post by spideress on Oct 18, 2013 5:34:07 GMT
I have enjoyed reading your posts and seeing your progress. You seem to have come on in leaps and bounds and I am so happy that you are now REALLY close to being 24/7 with your son :-) Well done!
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Post by Deleted on Oct 18, 2013 6:09:01 GMT
Fantastic!
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Post by gilreth on Oct 18, 2013 21:30:00 GMT
Day 12
What a strange strange day. Picked the boy up from FCs house where he actually let Daddy put him in the car seat rather than insisting FC did it as on last 2 mornings. Then it was a drive off to another local town - mainly to pay a decent cheque from HMRC into bank. Got some more long-sleeved tops for us all and managed to grab a coffee as well although the boy did test boundaries a bit by jumping on furniture. He then insisted on walking (been in buggy up to stop for coffee) which we allowed but he didn't like holding Daddy's hand. A bit later he decided to start crawling around in a shop as Mummy was purchasing lumber cushion (new car has good support and I am noticing lack in my car). Eventually Daddy had to pick him up as he kept crawling - saying he was walking. Got back to car where Daddy tried to train the boy on shutting caps on sports bottle tops when not drinking from them and set off home - as is becoming usual he fell asleep on way back.
I did wake him up when we got back and he had a bit of lunch before happily playing around the house - not really registering when T dived out to put another cheque in bank that had arrived in post today. We had discussions over climbing on furniture in shoes and jumping on it as well - allowed to bounce on Mummy & daddy but not solo. he also managed to start climbing up shelves at one point - can see we are going to be having numerous discussions about this until he gets it. As advised by brother-in-law we are picking our battles carefully - really concentrating on the ones where there is a chance of harm coming to him for now. So holding one of our hands when on roads or in shops and not jumping around on furniture (already fallen and banged his head once). His FC arrived with most of the rest of his stuff and her other two kids as agreed. They got a tour of the house - partly led by the boy but also by me and played a bit with his stuff before they left for final dinner at Pizza Hut.
We then spent some time sorting out clothes into age sizes - making sure that only the ones that are his size went into the cupboard, drawers & wardrobe. My sister got some of the smaller stuff as her younger son is 10 months younger than the boy. Going to ask around the adopters we know with smaller boys about the even younger stuff. Kept a few important things back but mainly we have enough stuff in storage for the next 2 sizes which my elder nephew has grown out of that we do not want to keep stuff that is too small. We then took ourselves to the pub for a last meal for a while as a couple and spent some time afterwards sat just chatting. .
This has been a strange 12 days - but as DH put it earlier when we were sat talking to my sister & brother-in-law (also adopters) now comes the new reality as of 9am in the morning.
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Post by daisy1985 on Oct 18, 2013 21:34:36 GMT
Wow sounds amazing
Sorry I haven't been on much but getting to grips with motherhood full time, haha and boy is it hard, my two are amazing but a handful to say the least!
You sound like you have done amazingly in intros, so good to hear more good stories! You are a braver woman than I tackling 2 days intros alone! Donald goes back to work Monday and I am dreading it! Argh home alone withtwo monsters will I survive!?
Good luck for tomorrow morning you probably won't sleep tonight with excitement, but capture every moment!
I've just filled a 200 page album with photos from the FC in lead up to intros, pics FC have us of activity day when we initially set eyes on Huey and Dewey, intros and 1st week of placement! Going to treasure it but my fave is the sneaky pic I took of each of them sleeping blissfully for the first time in their new beds! Xx
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Post by gilreth on Oct 18, 2013 22:01:19 GMT
We are blessed with 1 1/2 albums full of photos from FC (going back to birth) plus loads of extra ones - then there are the 197 taken during Intros. I think having those 3 days without my husband during Intros has given me confidence for when he goes back to work - he has next week of, then a week of working Mon, Weds, Fri then three weeks with a day off in it before he is back full time.
I can guess I am going to not be around as much after tomorrow although with only one child I will hopefully will find some time.
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Post by gilreth on Oct 20, 2013 20:07:17 GMT
Well at end of first full day with us - he woke up here & went to bed here. We had an upset boy at 2.30am but he was soon soothed although getting back to sleep took longer. Also resulted in annoyed cat as he'd been fast asleep on me.
Later start this morning due to hour awake in night but we eventually got going after cuddles & snuggles in Mummy & Daddy's bed. Spent the day around the house and doing bits & bats we needed. Went to park this afternoon as good weather & he happily ran around between the various slides, seesaw ( with Daddy) & swings. Got an ice-cream to finish with - he covered his face & his clothes but enjoyed it.
Dinner was fun but in the end he ate most of it & managed 2 fromage frais & a fruit puree pot. Watched a bit of Kipper DVD from his auntie (T's sister) then bath, story and bed. Laid in our bed with the odd cough but no upset and asleep quickly. Now to see if he wakes up in middle of night again.
All in all had a good day and the bond with both of us is growing. First SW visit of week tomorrow so have to be up ( well dressed) better than today. Three visits this week - tomorrow is his ( official one) then have local SW who has done some Theraplay training to give us some simple things to do with him ( our request). Our SW is also coming as his is doing first 2 weekly visits due to being on holiday for a fortnight after that. Our SW wanted to see us to check we were ok rather than not seeing us for best part of 3 weeks.
Sent from my Xperia Z using proboards
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Post by knight on Oct 21, 2013 18:19:22 GMT
Sounds like you're getting off to a super start Gilreth and hubby. Hope your SW visit went well.
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Post by moo on Oct 22, 2013 4:51:36 GMT
Hey mummy..... You all sound so settled well done.... Isn't it just the greatest when they are snoring their little heads off upstairs!! Handfull & climber or not he is all yours!! Enjoy.... Thanx for the updates......
Xx. moo. Xx
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