Found this on Attachment Disorder (UK) facebook page - thought it was interesting
Self-Care Wheel. Do you care for yourself in all 6 areas of your life? (You didn't know there were 6 important areas to take care of, did you?) This helpful wheel labels each one and describes how to care for yourself from each domain. Live a balanced and healthy life!
Mum to AD's Bubbles (29yrs) and Fizz (28yrs) (came aged 6 & 7yrs). Now Grandma to GD Miss Bubbles (9 yrs) she lives with Daddy Bubbles & GS master Bubbles (6 yrs) he was in fc from 3 months old for a year, now returned to live with sister Miss Bubbles & Daddy Bubbles they all have no contact with Bubbles. Bubbles and new partner now have tiny bubbles SS on board. AD Fizz has DD Miss Fizz 3 yr old. Fizz has really turned her life around having finally got out of DA relationship.
If you do all those things there is no time for parenting left!
Not very realistic to be honest.
Some things you can not change and than you just have to get on with it, it is not forever they're 18 before you even blink twice.
Now is my youngest saying he'll stay when he's 18 if I give him a car..... (I told him several times he will stay until 18 or he likes it or not after repeatedly saying he wants new parents etc). Silently I feel relieved, because he does not get a car, lol.
I doubt it's a suggestion to do it all, but a set of ideas, things to think about and adapt to your own life and interests. It's the categories which are relevant.
I do a bit of it all, probably not enough but enough to keep me sane. And in my own way. I would never listen to symphony for example, but I do like other forms of music. I go for a massage and facials, once a term. I take lunch at work, but not every day. I have coffee with friends, once or twice a month. A lot of it is doable even as a single person who works. If the housework doesn't get done so be it.
Mum to the 'hansom' Simba, age 16 and 40 now retired teddy bears