Related by Adoption (a handbook for grandparents & other relatives) - by Heidi Argent (BAAF)
Grandparents and other relatives who become related by adoption can play an invaluable role in the life of the adopted child.
When a child enters a new family with its own established lifestyle and ways of doing things - all of which could be overwhelming and confusing - grandparents and other relatives can help to guide the new child through what may seem to be an incomprehensible maze of values, standards and behaviours.
This handbook introduces grandparents-to-be and other relatives to information about adoption today.
It offers facts about the children needing adoption, processes and procedures and, most importantly, discusses how the wider family can support and be involved in building a family through adoption.
Quotes and snippets from family stories add immediacy to this accessible and informative guide, which also includes a contribution from grandparents.
If members of your family are considering adopting a child or children, this is the book for you!
Theraplay (Helping Parents & Children build the Bonds of Attachment) - by Phyllis B Booth
Theraplay a pioneering application of attachment theory to clinical work—helps parents learn and practice how to provide the playful engagement, empathic responsiveness, and clear guidance that lead to secure attachment and lifelong mental health in their children.
Theraplay shows how to use play to engage children in interactions that lead to competence, self–regulation, self–esteem, and trust.
Theraplay′s relationship–based approach is uniquely designed to help families facing today′s busy and often chaotic lifestyle challenges form joyful, loving relationships.
This is a highly interesting book and should be read by anyone who is interested in child development or is responsible for their development.
It is very inspiring, whether you're a carer, therapist, parent or social worker...doesn't matter. It can give you a basic understanding of how our brain develops and how traumatic experiences in life can affect this. However most of all it will give you an insight of Perry's work and the needs for our modern society arising from his experiences with those children.
Attachment in Common Sense and Doodles - by Miriam Silver
Attachment is a word used to describe a simple idea - the relationship with someone you love or whose opinions are important to you - so why is so much of the language relating to attachment so obscure, and why is it so challenging to help children who lack healthy attachment bonds?
'Attachment in Common Sense and Doodles' aims to bring some clarity and simplicity to the subject. Providing grounded information and advice accompanied by a series of simple 'doodles' throughout, it explains attachment in language that is easy to understand and describes how to apply this information in everyday life.
It describes how the attachment patterns in children who are adopted or fostered differ, summarises the latest research in the field and provides advice on how to repair attachment difficulties and to build create secure, loving relationships.
Covering all of the 'need to know' issues including how to spot attachment difficulties, how build resilience and empathy and responding to problematic behaviour, this book will be an invaluable resource for families and professionals caring for children who are fostered, adopted or who have experienced early trauma.
Parenting your anxious child with mindfulness and acceptance - by Christopher McCurry
Acceptance and Commitment Therapy is a newish branch of therapy which fits really well with the stress model / therapeutic approach of hearing your child, connecting with them where they are, helping them develop skills to cope with big feelings rather than trying to tell them they are irrational.
This book focuses on the importance of the relationship between parent and child and on exercises you can do together to develop confidence in dealing with anxiety.
Why Can't My Child Behave? - by Dr. Amber Elliot (as recommended by Haze)
Parenting a child who doesn't know how to be parented is the most difficult job in the world'
This book provides friendly expert advice on how to respond to difficult behaviours and emotions for parents of children with developmental trauma. Each chapter focusses on the common difficulties faced by carers or parents and features quick, applicable ideas with exercises and illustrations.
How do you react to a child's difficult behaviour? How do you deal with your own negative emotions? How do you know when to be empathic?
The book looks beyond the traditional punishment/reward strategies and aims to provide an explanation for such questions whilst helping the child in the process.
This book will prove to be an invaluable resource for parents, foster carers, social workers and professionals working with children who are adopted or fostered.
I have a spare copy of "First Steps in Parenting the Child Who Hurts - Tiddlers and Toddlers" by Caroline Archer as well as "Twenty Things Adopted Kids Wish Their Adoptive Parents Knew" by Sherrie Eldridge. I am happy to pass these on if anybody would be interested - as long as you don't mind it being slow postage as it is the cheapest!
How to talk to an Autistic Kid - by Daniel Stefanski (age 14)
How To Talk To An Autistic Kid is a very endearing picture book with wonderful suggestions on how to speak and interact with an autistic kid in a more respectful and kind manner. The book highlights the importance of really accepting and treating autistic kids just like any other kid, because even though they are different in some ways, they are very similar in other ways. It also teaches kids to not be afraid of befriending an autistic kid.
Written by a 14-year-old autistic kid himself, this book offers a unique point of view that you really won't get from mainstream books about autism that are more impersonal and make you feel like you are just being given information. What's great about this book is that you can put a face to this autistic disorder, of someone who is actually experiencing it first-hand. I don't know if you can get any more sincere than that!
How To Talk To An Autistic Kid really personalizes the whole reading experience in an extremely engaging way. Daniel tackles a sensitive subject with grace as well as humour at times. This book offers priceless advice in a fun, very approachable, easy-to-read set-up, with easy-to-follow tips, and includes many colorful illustrations to reiterate each point. And by the end of the book, you really feel like you got to know Daniel, who is more than just an autistic kid.
Daniel does a great job of really pouring his heart out in this book in an effort to help make the lives of autistic kids a little easier and better socially, not only at school, but any place where they are among non-autistic peers. Adults will also find this book helpful and it will heighten their understanding of autistic behavior in kids and learn what to do in certain situations. I am really glad Daniel decided to write this book. By doing this, his contributions to the autistic society will be endless. And even decades from now, autistic kids as well as non-autistic kids will still be benefiting from his words of wisdom, and he will have touched so many lives because of it. Daniel is truly an inspiration.
So whether you are a teacher, classmate, parent, sibling, relative, friend, librarian, or neighbor of an autistic kid or you just want to learn more about autistic behavior and communication, I HIGHLY recommend that you read this book. Because if you don't, you will really be missing out on something very special and important.
If you are a parent of an autistic kid, let your kid's school know that this book is a must have. It will really help your child feel comfortable and accepted by their classmates at school.
The Connected Child - by Purvis, Karyn B., Cross, David R. & Wendy Sunshine (bring Hope and Healing to Your Adoptive Family)
I really enjoyed reading The Connected Child as a prospective adopter, and find it invaluable now. It is basically a handbook on how to use therapeutic parenting for adopters - really simple, practical tips that make so much sense. Starlet has really benefitted from the "redo" technique described in the book. It is no nonsense, and simple to read - mum also enjoyed it and got a lot out of it in terms of understanding attachment and why "normal" parenting might not work.
Anyone recommend Parenting for Peace by Marcy Axness?
If we really want to change the world, let’s raise a generation hardwired for peace and innovation. Marcy Axness details a unique seven-step, seven-principle matrix for helping children achieve self-regulation, self-reflection, trust, and empathy. These qualities are the result of dynamic interactions between genetics and environment, beginning before the child is even born: foundations for this level of health begin forming during the prenatal period, and some aspects of optimal development are influenced as early as conception.
When Cherry Willoughby looked into the eyes of her adopted daughter, she was sure a loving family could heal the wounds of her daughter's troubled past. How devastatingly and terrifyingly wrong she was.
Her entire world was about to be broken apart in more ways than she could ever have imagined.
Who could she turn to, and more importantly, who would listen?
Calmer, Easier, Happier Parenting is every parent’s goal. But when our kids don’t listen to us or do the simple things what we ask them to do, it’s easy to lose patience and to nag, repeat, yell or threaten. There is a better way.
This revolutionary program gives you 5 simple and wildly effective techniques that make your kids want to listen to you and to do what you need them to do without having to remind, repeat or yell. When you use these positive and practical parenting strategies, your child’s behavior will improve and family life will become calmer, easier and happier.
Review:- This book aims to provide parents of children from other countries and cultures, from troubled backgrounds or on the spectrum of special needs with a toolkit to connect the child to parents. Thus the book's aim is provide parents with safe strategies for parents to promote connection with their children. Specifically written for adopted and special needs kids, the book offers advice ALL parents can access. In terms of adoptive families, the book offers post-adopters tools and prospective parents some hard things to mull over pre-adoption in terms of helping children `connect' safely to parents.
So, what is a connected child? Essentially the book`s thesis rests on the theory of behavior modification, with the key that parents can only change poor behaviours if the child trusts. Parent and child therefore must work to make the connection work. We learn that for a child to become connected, that child has to respect us as `family boss', fair in our dealing with them. Kids acting out do so because they haven't had a protective nurturing parent. Therefore, to connect and heal their behaviours our parenting must be grounded and strong.
It's a book with well developed steps to connection and nurturing. Each topic covered is matched with modules suggesting how we parents can modify our children's `skewed' responses to every day occurrences. So we are staged through dealing with tantrums in the supermarket, hurting other kids, poor choices, dealing with not wanting mum to go away (or pushing for it that she very much does go away!). The tactics are simple and sure. Poor behaviour should be seen as an opportunity to help our kids connect AND achieve better ways of responding. The strategy of allowing`re-do' of a poor choice or behaviour is prioritised, where the child gets to retry a poor choice. Eye contact and gentle connecting touch are requisites when re-directing a child's behaviour. Offering defined choices, and consequences that happen if a child doesn't play fair and do as promised, are highlighted as strong parenting. Sensible social strategies are offered. Parenting style is also covered, with parents advised to understand and deal with our own responses to challenge and stress. A parent who isn't personally grounded is not going to be the rock a challenging child requires.
There are other books that offer parents advice on re-directing poor behaviours using behavioural modification - a useful one being Transforming the Difficult Child (Glasser and Easley).The Connected Child adds to the literature both in offering up to date advice on the neurology of behaviour, plus is attractive in its pocket handbook size, its easy-read layout, and its helpful charts and bullet pointed strategies. A drawback is its assumption that behavioural modification will always work. It offers no alternative views, unlike another `toolkit book', Adoption Parenting ( MacLeod and Macrae) from EMK Press where the strength lies in many `voices' offering differing strategies to deal with issues. Nonetheless this new book is a welcome addition to an adoptive parent's bookshelf.
Keck's latest book, Parenting Adopted Adolescents, is a thoroughly enjoyable read - conversational in tone, filled with practical advice, and humorous without being flip. The tack Keck takes is there in the title subtext: appreciation. It serves us parents well to check in on that emotion and value. Through our appreciation of our adolescent children in all that they are, we become better parents and they closer to achieving their best.
The book is organized around some very basic concepts. Beginning with normative developmental stages, moving through the core issues of adoption, trans - racial and cultural issues, attachment, sexuality, therapeutic interventions and more, Keck addresses virtually every subject that parents negotiate on a daily basis.
The format is one I appreciate when reading any "help" book. Clinical information and analysis is followed by case examples that bring to life the points the author is making. As I read, I could see my family and myself in the stories - both optimal and hopelessly futile - and gained a sense that we all are muddling through this journey together. Sure we make mistakes, but they can be ameliorated with time, patience, understanding and acceptance.
Both logic and the obvious memory of once being an adolescent shape the very practical advice given throughout the book. Some of which I've actually used and seen work! Among some of the gems are the following:
* That although much of an adolescent's behavior is intentional, i.e. he meant to do it, the consequences and resultant adult feelings are NOT the intent. "When adopted adolescents reject others, their intention is usually not to cause hurt but to avoid being rejected themselves."
* Lighten up on the myriad ways adolescents try to express their individuality and find their way. "Adults typically talk about peer pressure only when discussing negative. It is rare to accuse an honor student of studying so hard just because his friends do."
* "When parents believe that a single magical strategy will resolve all psychological or behavioral problems, they tend to rely on the strategy as opposed to relying on the relationship with their child."
* Try talking to your child(ren) the way you do people who are not in your family and see what the result is. Conversely, and perhaps more risky, try talking to your colleagues the way you talk to your adolescent and observe the result. * And finally... Avoid control battles at all costs * Win the ones you take on * Pick and choose your battles carefully
The various challenges that adolescents can throw our way are described not as problems, but as expected and predictable developmental stages. In this way the reader is able to normalize what may be feeling like a completely out-of-control existence. For example, when referring to the "honeymoon period" that all adoptive parents know about, Keck draws a comparison to a new employee being on her best behavior at the job before settling in and becoming comfortable. It is a refreshing break from much of the writing out there about adopted children and adolescents that talks about pathology, projected outcomes, and warning signs. While these are important issues, not to be lightly dismissed, it is wise to start at a place of strength, hope and normalcy.
Kim Stevens, Project Manager, North American Council on Adoptable Children
Welcoming a new Brother or Sister through Adoption - by Arleta James
Adoption is a big step which can change the whole dynamics of the family. It is crucial that parents understand the impact it has when new sibling relationships are forged and an adoptee becomes a part of the family.
Welcoming a New Brother or Sister through Adoption is a comprehensive yet accessible guide that describes the adoption process and the impact of adoption on every member of the family, including the adopted child.
It prepares families to have realistic expectations and equips them with knowledge to deal with a host of situations that may arise, addressing difficult questions head-on: 'Did we make the right choice by adopting?', 'How is this affecting our birth children?, 'Will our adopted son or daughter heal?' are explored and solutions discussed in detail. All this is accompanied with real life stories and direct quotes from children, which make it a realistic and insightful resource.
This book is vital reading for adoptive families and professionals who work with them including social workers, counselors and psychologists.
About the Author Arleta James, MS, PCC, has been an adoption professional for many years. She spent several years as a caseworker for the Pennsylvania Statewide Adoption Network placing foster children with adoptive families and then as the statewide Matching Specialist.
She now works as a clinical therapist at the renowned Attachment and Bonding Centre of Ohio, providing services for attachment difficulties, childhood trauma and issues related to adoption. She was the 1999 Pensylvania Adoption Professional of the Year.
The Emotional Experience of Adoption - by Debbie Hindle & Graham Shulman
Review 'An interesting, informative and enjoyable read, the volume conveys core psychoanalytic ideas relevant to adoption and insights into therapeutic processes in a very vivid and accessible fashion.' - Malcolm Hill, Glasgow School of Social Work, UK
'Focusing on the trauma experienced by most adopted children prior to being taken into care, this book conveys the damage these children have sustained and the impact of this on their new family and the professionals involved. Psychoanalytic ideas both help understanding and provide a means of amelioration by offering treatment possibilities and a consultation framework. An accessible but painful book to read.' - Judith Trowell, West Midlands Care Service Improvement Partnership and University of Worcester, UK
Adoption is an extremely complex and emotionally demanding process for all those involved. This book explores the emotional experience of adoption from a psychoanalytic perspective, and demonstrates how psychoanalytic understanding and treatment can contribute to thinking about and working with adopted children and their families.
Drawing on psychoanalytic, attachment and child development theory, and detailed in-depth clinical case discussion, The Emotional Experience of Adoption explores issues such as:
The emotional experience of children placed for adoption, and how this both shapes and is shaped by unconscious processes in the child’s inner world
How psychoanalytic child psychotherapy can help as a distinctive source of understanding and as a treatment for children who are either in the process of being adopted or already adopted
How such understanding can inform planning and decision making amongst professionals and carers.
The Emotional Experience of Adoption explains and accounts for the emotional and psychological complexities involved for child, parents and professionals in adoption. It will be of interest and relevance to anyone involved at a personal level in the adoption process or professionals working in the fields of adoption, social work, child mental health, foster care and family support.
The Colours in Me:- Writing & Poetry by Adopted Children & Young People - edited by Perlita Harriss BAAF
A wonderfully insightful book that gives adopted children the long awaited platform to express themselves as never before.
Perlita Harris has managed to bring to the fore the thoughts, feelings and voices of children, adolescents and young people. Within the pages of this book the reader hears children's and young people's thoughts and feelings about their birth parents, birth siblings, adoptive families, post adoption contact (and lack of contact) and so much more. As you read you can hear their voices!
The book is divided into sub-sections, each relating to an aspect of adoption such as what it's like being adopted, separation from significant people and re-visiting birth place, etc. At the end of the book are messages from some contributors to other adopted children, adoptive parents, social workers and therapists. Read and take action! Finally, a bio paragraph about each contributor (along with a photo in some cases) is included at the back making each piece of writing and artwork all the more `real'.
The statements, narratives, poems and artwork reflecting each child's and young person's experience of adoption are touching, thought provoking, enlightening and encouraging. All those involved in care planning for children including social workers, Independent Reviewing Officers, Family Court Judges, anyone considering adoption or fostering, students and tutors of social work along with all adopted children and young people MUST read this book!
Brilliant! Well done to the children and young people, Perlita Harris and the British Association for Adoption and Fostering for yet another pioneering book!
Synopsis First book-length exploration of adoptive fatherhood as a topic in its own right, placing adoptive fathers within the web of relationships comprising adoption today. The voices of men - adoptive and birth fathers - are rarely heard in adoption debates.
This book looks at what it is like being an adoptive dad and explains how you go about adopting a child, prepare for a new kind of family life and deal with the challenges along the way. It explores how men fit into the adoption scene and looks at adoptive fatherhood as a topic in its own right - written by someone who has been there.
This timely and thought provoking book is the first in the UK to combine the experiences and perspectives of adoptive fathers with a guide to the adoption process - from the man's point of view. Against a context in which our understanding of fathers, their roles and their purpose, is vague at the best of times, this book is a welcome addition to the literature.
Fathers have been largely silent and unstudied figures, yet they can be key in their children's lives and play a crucial role in the success or failure of adoptive placement. This book fleshes out the adoptive father's somewhat sketchy place in the contemporary map of adoption.
For those of you in Scotland, I have just seen a new book advertised on the BAAF site "Adopting a Child in Scotland" by Robert Swift As there are some differences in the process, particularly the legal side, it could be worth a read
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Mum to AS, Emperor (18) & AS, King (12), (10 & almost 7 at placement). Married to DH, Rockhopper.
Three Little Words (A memoir) - by Ashley Rhodes-Courter Lilka's review:
This is honestly the best memoir from an adoptee I have ever read, and for me it ties with Sally Donovan's book 'No Matter What' for the best adoption memoir I've ever read full stop. It is so honest, and I only wish it had been around before I adopted my DD1. She, by the way, also gives this book 5 stars and says she felt many of the same things as Ashley and it was a 'comforting' read in that respect. I especially recommend it to anyone thinking of adopting an older child, 7/8+
Ashley was removed from her mother by Florida's social services department when she was 3 years old, and then spent the next about 8 years bouncing around a care system which completely failed her, from foster homes to relatives to foster homes in the double digits, to a care home. About 25% of her foster parents were or are now convicted felons - they had issues from drug and alcohol problems to paedophilia. She was beaten and starved. Frequently seperated from her little brother, she clung to her mother's promise that one day she would go home and to her words "Sunshine, you're my baby, and I'm your only mother. You must mind the one taking care of you, but she's not your mama". She never did "go home". After years in care, her mother's rights were terminated, and finally when she was 11, she was given the 'family book' of a couple, Gay and Phil Courter, who wanted to adopt her. Ashley's memoir tells her story from birth to her mid-teenage years, well after adoption finalisation (which happened when she was 12).
A memoir from an older adoptee who spent years in the care system is such a rare thing...and this book is so so honest. Ashley not only describes her life, but especially after adoption, she really talks about what it was like, how she felt, and it's this which I could potentially really be helpful to prospective parents. For her to be able to articulate her feelings and struggles so well, is a triumph in itself IMHO. As well as this, her acheivements in life in light of her early childhood are inspiring - by her mid teens, she had been to court, suing the foster parents who had horrifically abused so many of the children in their care, she had been to the White House, won national essay competitions, spoken in front of over a thousand people and more besides.
I'm just going to quote a few of these honest lines, because there's no better way to recommend a book than giving you a snippet of it:
(this first one's actually from a news article Ashley gave, the rest from the book): "I saw my adoption as a business proposition,” Ashley said. “It wasn’t warm and fuzzy. I saw it as, here was a couple that was going to help me get to college and achieve the things I wanted to achieve.”
“In the back of my mind I kept wondering what I would have to do to wrong for the Courters to send me back…..I had found all sorts of ways to incite a quarrel between Phil and Gay, which gave me a perverse satisfaction – until Phil lost his usual cool and stormed out to his workshop. I never wanted to hurt his feelings; but I did love to see Gay crumble”
“Even if Gay really thought she loved me, I felt nothing. The Hudsons said they loved Luke [Ashley's brother] but that didn’t stop them from sending him back”
“I turned my cheek for the usual kiss. Gay said, “Someday maybe you’ll kiss me back”. I sat up and stared past her. “I told you I would never kiss you!”….Somewhere my mother was still out there. I would keep my promise to her even if she had not kept any of hers, and I would never love anyone else”
“I was furious when I found out that Gay and my mother had been writing letters behind my back. I felt that Gay had honed her way into my most private relationship without my permission”
“Before, I had held something back so that when they discarded me, I would not be so wounded. But with my parents by my side, who had proven their love for me, I felt safe enough to allow sunlight to sweep the shadows from my life”
“Day after day, they were there for me ; until one day, I not only felt safe, I did not want to leave. Maybe that is one definition of love”
Maybe that interested you! That quote about gaining satisfaction from making her new mum 'crumble'....my DD1 just said 'oh my God' several times when she read that. I don't think she was able to believe that someone out there had also had those same feelings
Though the memoir ends at her mid-teens, Ashley has gone on to appear on many television shows, spoken at many events, she became a CASA (what we would call a GAL, but CASA's are volunteers in her state) and finally a foster parent. She is now an adoptive parent as well, and described it as coming 'full circle'
Mum to DD1 (28), DD2 (18) & DS (9). Currently trying to move forwards after asking DD2 to leave home. Also granny to two girls aged (2) and (1) and poop scooper to 2 master escape artist Gerbils!
The Growing Up Book for Boys explains the facts behind the growth spurts, body changes and mood swings of adolescence for boys aged 9-14 on the Autism Spectrum.
The pre-teen and teenage years are a confusing time when bodies start acting with a will of their own, friendships change and crushes start to develop. Using direct literal language and cool colour illustrations, this book tells boys all they need to know about growing hair in new places, shaving, wet dreams and unexpected erections. It's full of great advice on what makes a real friend, how to keep spots away, and how to stay safe online.
Most importantly, it explains that every body is amazing and unique and encourages young boys with autism to celebrate difference!
There is also an equivalent book called 'The Growing up book for girls'.
You often hear adopted children saying “I don’t know why” after they have done something that just doesn’t make sense. Through the characters in this book this question will be explored and hopefully enlighten both parent and child.
This book has especially been written for the following: • Adopted children. Meet Fiona, Yasmin, Jakub, and Shaniquia, who share their adoption stories. They will tell you how they feel about being adopted and how they feel about not living with their birth parents. As you read you will discover that parts of their story may be similar to yours.
• Adoptive parents. This book is for sharing with your child. As you read together, it will prompt conversations around your own child’s birth history and adoption story. • Professionals. This is a valuable tool to use when undertaking life-story work and direct work with adopted children.
It is aimed at children between the ages of six and ten but can be adapted and used for older or younger children.
Topics include: • neglect • contact • bedwetting • multiple placement moves • death of a birth parent • neglect and mental health issues • stealing • bullying • feelings of not deserving anything good • negative feelings towards the adoptive mother • destructive behaviour
Using stories to build bridges with traumatised children - by Kim Golding
This book provides a cogent model for understanding the applications of stories to therapy and counselling as well as articulate advice about developing therapeutic, solution-based, and personalized stories to enhance trauma recovery. It is a book that I will return to on a regular basis and a must-have; volume for counsellors, social workers, psychologists, creative arts therapists and trauma specialists. --Cathy Malchiodi, PhD, LPCC, LPAT, ATR-BC, REAT, Trauma-Informed Practices and Expressive Arts Therapy Institute and President, Art Therapy Without Borders
Practitioners will easily identify themes in these stories, which will have resonance for many of the children and families they work with. This book may also inspire some to have a go; at writing their own therapeutic stories, and the structure suggested and underlying principles are equally relevant to compiling life story books for children. --Joy Rees, adoption adviser, social work consultant, trainer and author of Life Story Books for Adopted Children
Kim Golding is truly both an excellent psychologist, teacher, and writer while at the same time being a wonderful story creator. This is a work to read deeply and to keep nearby as we use stories to help children, their families, and ourselves to make sense of our life long journeys. --From the foreword by Dan Hughes, psychologist and founder of Dyadic Developmental Psychotherapy, author of Attachment-Focused Family Therapy Workbook
About the Author
Kim S. Golding is a clinical psychologist who works in Worcestershire, England where she was influential in the founding of the Integrated Service for Looked After Children - a multi-agency, holistic service providing support for foster, adoptive and residential parents, schools and the range of professionals supporting children growing up in care or in adoptive families. Kim was trained and mentored by Dan Hughes in the use of Dyadic Developmental Psychotherapy (DDP). She accredits and trains professionals in the approach in the UK and has been invited to speak about this work internationally. She is the author of a number of books on attachment, adoption and fostering, including Creating Loving Attachments: Parenting with PACE to Nurture Confidence and Security in the Troubled Child, co-authored with Dan Hughes and published by Jessica Kingsley Publishers.
Banish your Body Image Thief - by Kate Collins Donnelly
The book is full of case studies and exercises... The book is aimed at boys and girls aged 10-18, though I think it could be used by slightly younger children (perhaps 8+) with support and guidance.
It starts off by helping young people to understand what body image is and why it's important before considering negative body image and the impact a negative body image can have... The activities and case studies are all presented in an accessible and friendly style. The book is beautifully presented and I can imagine a young person being very motivated to complete the activities.
Whilst it is designed as a self-help guide to be completed sequentially from beginning to end, I think there is plenty of scope for confident parents and practitioners to cherry pick relevant activities or sections where time is short or where there is need for a rapid and specific focus... therapists, school counsellors, pastoral staff and parents may find that it is a useful addition to the recovery toolbox. (Pooky Knightsmith In Our Hands blog)
Katie uses her expert knowledge to help children develop a positive self- image... This book offers useful self-help activities to banish negative thoughts about your body. As a wellbeing mentor, I have found this book to be extraordinarily helpful; it has been used with some of my clients and I have started to recommend it to parents. An invaluable book, all young people should read. (Wellbeing Mentor blog)
A fun CBT approach to promote positive body image in young people
About the Author
Kate Collins-Donnelly has worked as a therapist, psychologist, criminologist and anger management consultant based in the UK for many years. She presently runs a successful independent consultancy practice which provides cognitive behavioural therapy, counselling, coaching and training, and is head of the Psychological and Criminological Research Division. She is the author of Starving the Anger Gremlin, Starving the Anxiety Gremlin, Starving the Stress Gremlin and Banish Your Self-Esteem Thief.
Banish your Self Esteem Thief - by Kate Collins Donnelly
Yet again, Kate Collins-Donnelly has managed to take a complex subject and communicate it in simple, fun and engaging language.
Regardless of age or background, children, young people and practitioners alike will not help but enjoy this cognitive behavioural journey of self-discovery. For the child or young person, the book oozes interesting and fun ways to help you feel good about yourself and to motivate you to banish your Self-Esteem Thief!
For parents, I suspect the journey will be just as much fun and enlightening! For the practitioner, the book communicates both breadth and depth of theory and provides a useful and clever framework to facilitate change in others. Without doubt, the Self-Esteem Thief will be joining my language of change! -- Alisa Purton C.Psychol, Forensic Psychologist, UK
This is an excellent workbook for any young person struggling with low self-esteem. The author uses a cognitive behavioural and mindfulness approach which is designed to help you change how you think and act. The book contains real life stories to help young people realise that they are not alone in their struggle. It's laid out in a friendly and easy way, easy to read cover to cover or to dip in and out of. The activities are straight forward and provide you with the necessary tools to change your way of thinking.
I have used some of the activities from this workbook with my clients and have been impressed with the results. Wellbeing Mentor blog Packed with activities and real-life stories, this imaginative workbook will show you what self-esteem is, how it develops, the impact it can have and how all this applies to your own self-esteem.
Using cognitive behavioural and mindfulness principles and techniques, this workbook will help you change how you think and act in order to build positive self-esteem, protect your Self-Esteem Vault and banish your Self-Esteem Thief for good! Fun, easy to read and full of tips and strategies, this is an excellent workbook for young people aged 10+ to work through on their own or with the help of a parent or practitioner.
Starving the Anxiety Gremlin - by Kate Collins Donnelly
In Starving the Anxiety Gremlin for Children Aged 5-9, Kate Collins-Donnelly offers children, parents and professionals working with children the strategies they need to develop an understanding of anxiety and how to effectively manage it.
The fun activities help readers to apply the learning to themselves and to practice proactive thinking to strengthen self-belief. I have delved into this accessible workbook with my own children and used its techniques with children that I work with. It has not only had a positive impact on them but also on me!
As with Kate's other books, this is a workbook to go back to again and again to revisit concepts and to remind children that they can choose to see the world differently and that we can too! (Fiona Rigby, Headteacher, St Catherine’s Catholic Primary School, Sheffield)
Note:- There is also another book by the same name, which is aimed at older children 10+, so choose according to your childs age.