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Post by imp on Nov 8, 2014 20:10:07 GMT
Why do we do it?
I don't know if I am on my head or my heels this evening.
Plans have been changing by the hour all week, and I still don't know where we will be next week with our placements. Ok, my DH and I will be living here, but no idea about the plans for our LOs.
Nothing to do with us, just everyone else, courts, SWs, parents, Adopters, you name it, all have their own agendas and we just have to roll with it,
Attachment/bonding with our LOs? That just isn't taken into the equation---but then, we don't have feelings and commitment to the LOs do we?
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Post by poohbear on Nov 8, 2014 20:12:10 GMT
Oh dear, that doesn't sound good!
Hope things settle next week and that in the meantime you can have a nice weekend with your little ones, those little ones that you ARE committed to and love!
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Post by nomoretears on Nov 8, 2014 22:37:41 GMT
Hi Imp, I haven't been around much lately (traumas aplenty in this foster household too!) so am not too sure where you're up to with your little ones. Sadly it seems almost every FC I know is venting the same frustrations as you lately.
This time of year is always stressful and not knowing what's happening to our children, being last in the chain of communication, just makes things harder.
Hope things get sorted out for you soon x
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Post by Deleted on Nov 9, 2014 4:28:11 GMT
Hugs Imp,
Think it's the pre-christmas rush ..... will we place them ..... won't we place them ....have we enough time etc ....
Must be a nightmare for you, not knowing one way or the other.
Same for the prospective parents though ...... will we have a LO this Christmas or not?
Not easy when kids lives are not in your hands but in the hands of SS and Judges and beurocracy.
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Post by moo on Nov 9, 2014 11:37:27 GMT
Hugs imp xxx {{}}
Hang in.... Here's to everything sorted fast xx
xx. moo. Xx
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Post by imp on Nov 9, 2014 13:16:19 GMT
One of the main frustrations for us is the mental/emotional prep we have to do for moving a child on---necessary for our own sanity,
To have constantly changing plans, (with 2 separate children) sometimes within one day, is playing havoc with my frame of mind----and I have to be 'professional' throughout But I am only human, and this isn't a job which I can go home and leave behind at the end of the day, this, and they, are part of our lives.
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Post by imp on Nov 10, 2014 17:08:16 GMT
You're so right toko xx
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Post by poohbear on Nov 12, 2014 14:33:14 GMT
How is this week going Imp? Have you been given any more clarity on what is happening with your little ones?
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Post by imp on Nov 12, 2014 15:50:37 GMT
Settling down thank you pb. there are definite plans afoot. Not necessarily what I would have hoped for, but at least we know what we are working to. All it takes is for some good communication and co working!!
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Post by loadsofbubs on Nov 13, 2014 8:59:43 GMT
ah, good communication! funny how its something that we have drummed into us, thro supervision, training, banding qualifications, but that some how it seems to bypass some sws! all thro the bbs saga it was me expected to be professional, take the consequences etc not the sws (I was actually told my annual review back then that it had to be me and not them that improved relationships there even tho the sws were actively avoiding me at at the time!) and I know that if todays mini saga hits the fan that it will be me who gets the flack too, despite the email trail I can prove communication from me with, such is life. but glad things settling your end imp.
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