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Post by fruitcake on Sept 16, 2014 11:15:28 GMT
Because you have just written your "signature" with a hearts and flowers J. Because this isn't a letter to a penfriend. This is your voter registration form. And I have explained what a signature is and the importance of keeping it consistent many times before. Because you are 17. Because you are going to college next year and home education is coming to an end, and you are terribly immature. I am frightened for you. GROW UP!
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Post by twoplustwo on Sept 16, 2014 14:42:33 GMT
Oh I know THAT feeling. We filled in FOUR passport forms for Stig before he managed to sign it with something resembling a signature. Smiley faces don't go down awfully well with the passport office.
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Post by mooster on Sept 16, 2014 15:19:33 GMT
Because you are nearly 18 and things change then (apparently).
Because you need to get up off your backside and start living in the real world rather than your fantasy one where you wait for things to just land in your lap.
Because you are really bright and beautiful and it is so hard to watch it all drift away.
Because you cannot let yourself play the victim.
Because talking about doing things is not the same as actually doing them.
Because I am exhausted worrying about your future……..
Mooster x
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Post by fruitcake on Sept 16, 2014 19:46:10 GMT
Mooster - you sooo get it! Yes, the victim stance is very popular here too.
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Post by moo on Sept 17, 2014 4:39:03 GMT
Ooohhh guys & here was me hoping things improved as they got older 
Xx. moo. Xx
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Post by mayan on Sept 17, 2014 12:33:48 GMT
Hugs to you fruitcake - just so exasperating when we know the clock is ticking loudly in our ears to get them as ready as we can....my Waterloo this week was getting her to measure her vital statistics for a shopping trip as she insists on buying oversized baggy things - it took a good hour and raised bp on my part...but we managed a good shopping trip and she chose and paid for some really nice things and actually enjoyed looking at the clothes for the first time - ( I hate shopping but it was so nice to finally see her hold something up and look in the mirror at herself).
still working on things here at 25 going on 26 but finally managed to get dd to organise and book an appointment herself and experience the joys of her first smear test - ok too tense to complete but she was able to chat with the nurse about her fears and got herself through the door - so hopefully she will take herself to a doctor if she really needs one.
after much angst and in this case an ultimatum - if it isn't done she can't drive the car and get to work...sorted her car servicing out and got herself there and back again without depending on us to ferry her about whereafter she reflected she was too scared to move forwards despite having been through the routine several times - sometimes the carrot works and sometimes the stick and sometimes it's just unending patience and hope that they will crack the task eventually... Form filling always a nightmare and multiple copies or photocopy practice ones always necessary here too. It's hard when they are forced into situations they are still not yet ready for and we are increasingly less able to advocate for them.
Your post did make me smile though as it minded me of a dear friend who still signs her name with a stylised daisy over the "i" in her name - I read somewhere it is a sign of immaturity of the self but she is also a very creative person, scatty as anything but has got through life by the skin of her teeth in some ways but heart of gold to boot!
we have had a lot of firsts with dd this year and whilst I still have my panic moments and despair she will "cope" on her own and still so much yet to do - she has come a long long way since she was 17 so can empathise with where you are at right now.
By by hook or by crook I am sure you will get there.
look after yourself
mxx
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Post by fruitcake on Sept 17, 2014 13:54:07 GMT
Thanks for your post, Mayan: reassuring as always as you have btdt and got the T shirt!
I am more than ever convinced that the world of work holds the key to dd gaining a bit more maturity and perspective, but baby steps are called for.
I have sourced an evening music group once a week where she can help people with learning disabilities make music. This should be fairly undemanding and within her competence (I hope!). Then she can work towards getting a reference, after a few months, to do some voluntary work in a very good nursing home I know of. A young man of my acquaintance did this at her age and fairly quickly got some paid shifts. She wants to work in the healthcare sector (gulp!) and we have had some conversations about the steps you need to get there, both practical and academic. (Remember "back-chaining"?) We have also talked about the importance of integrity for those working with the vulnerable! She seemed to start getting it: I hope so anyway. Having a bit of a plan seems to have helped her. I am very much of the school of thought that you shouldn't interfere with your children's plans but leave them free. However, some of ours need much more guidance, I think. I have stressed that if ever she feels that this field is not for her, she can change her mind, of-course: but try to have a plan.
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