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Post by peartree on Sept 5, 2014 23:20:26 GMT
Gone from her unit Police called Full missing persons alert Mr pt has got al twitchy and I've got knots in my tummy She's had a first week at college Done so well  Oh blossom-where are you |
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Post by serrakunda on Sept 5, 2014 23:37:38 GMT
Oh PT, hope she is found safe and well soon
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Post by lilka on Sept 6, 2014 1:37:40 GMT
I'm sorry PT I still gets knots when I think about my DD having been missing. I hope yours are eased as soon as possible when they find Blossom, and that she's safe and well |
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Post by Deleted on Sept 6, 2014 2:47:19 GMT
Hoping, praying and keeping everything crossed for you PT.
why oh why do they do this?
((((((((((((PT & DH)))))))))))
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Post by peartree on Sept 6, 2014 5:40:18 GMT
Heart racing feeling grim
But at 4am blossom was found at a police station
She's safe
For now
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Post by bagpuss72 on Sept 6, 2014 7:32:00 GMT
So glad Blossom has turned up and is safe PT.Hope you can get the "formalities" of her return dealt with asap and that you can all get some well deserved rest.((hugs)) x
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Post by serrakunda on Sept 6, 2014 9:01:17 GMT
Glad she is safe
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Post by daffin on Sept 6, 2014 9:13:53 GMT
Terrible for you all. I hope you can recover a sense of calm over the next few days. Thinking of you.
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Post by doubletrouble on Sept 6, 2014 9:51:13 GMT
Loads of Hugs. One minute you are so pleased with your son returning then Blossom has a wobbly. Poor you.
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Post by Janie2 on Sept 6, 2014 10:27:53 GMT
Hello Peartree,
So glad Blossom is back safe and well.
As you are probably aware our younger ad went missing from her unit, at least two nights per week, there were literally dozens and dozens of phone calls. We were phoned at all hours of the night to inform us. Sometimes we would get 2 phone calls to inform us (unit staff not communicating with each other), I got so, so sick of them and I had to go to work the next day. It may sound callous, but I became a bit blaze about the mispas eventually, and I became sick of my ad's reasons for going missing. So with a hard heart I informed unit staff not to phone us but text us. This saved our mental health, the phone did not ring in the middle of the night, and I eventually started leaving my mobile downstairs when I went to bed. I was not disturbed in the night and when I got up there was always a text to say she had gone missing, then another to say she had returned/been found at silly o'clock. Crisis over!
Sometimes we have to keep ourselves sane, and do things that may seem uncaring. Had I not done that I would be in a physciatric unit by now, as the calls came so frequently.
Try to remember they will stop, and when she is living independently she will stop - they have no one to run from!
Stay strong
Janie 2 x
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Post by Deleted on Sept 6, 2014 10:52:28 GMT
So glad she has been found.
I think Springs advice is good, at least that way you get a nights sleep before hearing the "drama" the next day when it's all over.
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Post by moo on Sept 6, 2014 11:06:48 GMT
Sorry so late to this pear tree....
So pleased she has been found safe.....
Gentle hugs for you & mr p.t..... Such stress xxx sending you support & many hugs xxx
Xx. moo. Xx
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Post by vickyvixen on Sept 6, 2014 16:57:29 GMT
I hope you're all ok - glad she was found and I hope you & Mr PT have been able to have a rest to recover.
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Post by peartree on Sept 6, 2014 17:18:19 GMT
Sorry to say she's gone again, staff had her in sight for a time.
Been volatile and shouty at the unit
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Post by peartree on Sept 6, 2014 17:31:37 GMT
Volatile afternoon
But she's back at the unit
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Post by corkwing on Sept 6, 2014 18:51:09 GMT
Sending you hugs!
Love,
Corkwing
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Post by knight on Sept 6, 2014 19:35:49 GMT
Such hard work and emotionally draining. I have to say I was nodding reading Spring's advice; my friends went through this and eventually they did something similar to Spring. You and your family have been through so much but yes, it's your sanity which has to be protected and maintained. Hugs to you and yours x
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Post by fruitcake on Sept 6, 2014 19:41:11 GMT
Back on the rollercoaster! Praying that you have calmer times soon and that Blossom continues to allow herself to have good experiences at college.
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Post by larsti on Sept 6, 2014 19:54:45 GMT
sorry to hear about this PT. Spring is right, you must try to protect yourselves as far as you can from the worry and stress of it all.
Lots of hugs ((((The Orchard))))
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Post by wibbley on Sept 6, 2014 21:49:51 GMT
So glad she's back PT
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Post by peartree on Sept 7, 2014 20:08:58 GMT
Thank you all for your posts
When blossom was running several times a week
In the end is ask for a call when she was safely found the following day
We've had a thing in the past of no calls between 10pm and 7am
I'd so hoped she was beyond all that.
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Post by peartree on Sept 7, 2014 20:12:11 GMT
If it's going to be a feature again, maybe we will have to do the call protocol again
It did help
Serious incidents like assaults etc we'd still get calls
But the blossom runs about having a most lovely time playing cat & mouse with staff and police
I can't do anything about it anyway
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Post by twoplustwo on Sept 8, 2014 12:04:56 GMT
If it's going to be a feature again, maybe we will have to do the call protocol again It did help Serious incidents like assaults etc we'd still get calls But the blossom runs about having a most lovely time playing cat & mouse with staff and police I can't do anything about it anyway |
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Post by twoplustwo on Sept 8, 2014 12:08:06 GMT
Sound like you have a sensible approach.Especially the acceptance that you can't do anything about it. Shame that we can't just switch our emotions off. Hope blossom settles enough to stop running soon
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Post by sunnysky on Sept 10, 2014 13:56:15 GMT
Sorry to hear you are having these worried about Blossom.
I have been there with this and know how painful it is. I always thought the worst and my boys always turned up when they were ready. It was about control and simply because they could do it.
I eventually talked to the home where my boys were and asked them only to ring me in an emergency - after dozens of missings from home I started to see them as non-emergencies I'm afraid. This way they woudl only ring if the boys were missing for an inordinate length of time.
It saved that knot in the stomach feeling and I will then get a call in the morning to say the boys had been missing then come back so worry over.
Not sure if this helps as you might not be able to deal with it this way but in the end I was able to.
I know how it feels xxxxxxx
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Post by peartree on Sept 10, 2014 17:35:06 GMT
We've struggled to do the not worrying about blossom when she's run
Maybe it would be best if we didn't know
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