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Post by nomoretears on Aug 2, 2014 18:06:01 GMT
This week I've had an absolute shed load of "stuff" dropped on me by my foster child's birth parents. A teenage (or even adult) mountain bike (child is 6), a load of broken toys, a tent (for 4 people), a massive toddler see saw (again, child is 6). Also clothing for a teenager.
Its becoming clear now that child isn't returning home so I understand that parents may want to provide some things for their future but this is ridiculous - the items are second hand, and we're falling over things every where we turn. There's absolutely no way a future family will want all of this - and it's not like they have any meaning to the child.
What would other foster carers do? Keep quiet, or ask SW to have a word?
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Post by moo on Aug 2, 2014 18:26:35 GMT
Oooh sympathies nmt.... Can't see the logic tbh not sentimental to child or of any real use either!?? 
Sorry not a f/c carer but still don't "get it " I would be asking s/w to tactfully have a word ( course that will depend on weather s/w will actually tell bf or "feel it might be too painful so they will wait & tackle it later when she thinks they are stronger!! " )
Good a Luck.... I am picturing you trying to skwish this huge pile of 'stuff' into storage containers :- to no avail & looking on despondently at the carnage.... Hugs xx
A 4 person tent ain't small.....
xx. moo. Xx
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Post by serrakunda on Aug 2, 2014 18:57:40 GMT
I don't think it's fair to expect you to to store big items like that, I'd have a word with SW and ask if the LA would like to store them until such time as LO is placed.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 3, 2014 6:59:30 GMT
I think you are being perfectly resonable especially if the presents are inappropriate for his age. I'd ask if SS were prepared to pay for storage of said items until fosling is old enough, that should be enough to get SW to tell parents to hang on to things until he is old enough.  |
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Post by loadsofbubs on Aug 3, 2014 17:20:46 GMT
I have in the past received inappropriately aged/sized toys and clothes and usually speak to the child's sw and ask them to return to bp's. I have had offers of equipment, or bp's wanting their child to use the equipment they have bought for the child, but the reality is that I have enough equipment and cannot store duplicates so I always politely decline the equipment, even when (as has been tried) sw's say I should use it. but I have had mutterings of being 'cluttered' before now so at least my fsw is on my side on this one! where contact has takne place at my home then I do allow bp's to use their own buggies etc, but they take them home at night as I am not known as the pram lady around here for nothing and another pram/buggy is just one too many!!
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Post by ham on Aug 4, 2014 4:20:57 GMT
If stuff is broken then surely that would be a safety issue anyway.I can understand that you might not be able to bin it but SW must have some say on that.
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Post by chotimonkey on Aug 4, 2014 12:31:57 GMT
I agree with the others, pass it back to ss, or say you would be happy to store it if ss paid for a large enough extension to store all the carp  |
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Post by nomoretears on Aug 6, 2014 10:01:30 GMT
Thanks everyone, I've had a word with SW and she's agreed that anything broken can be binned - child is happily helping with this - a minor miracle in itself!
We decided to put tent up outside so the rain doesn't keep us inside during the holidays. Then I realised I've no idea how to put up an "old" tent! Luckily a friend was looking for a cheap tent so hopefully we can loan it out for the summer!
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Post by imp on Aug 14, 2014 10:51:43 GMT
Late coming to this, in the same scenario I just insisted that the SW took everything
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