This week I've had an absolute shed load of "stuff" dropped on me by my foster child's birth parents. A teenage (or even adult) mountain bike (child is 6), a load of broken toys, a tent (for 4 people), a massive toddler see saw (again, child is 6). Also clothing for a teenager.
Its becoming clear now that child isn't returning home so I understand that parents may want to provide some things for their future but this is ridiculous - the items are second hand, and we're falling over things every where we turn. There's absolutely no way a future family will want all of this - and it's not like they have any meaning to the child.
What would other foster carers do? Keep quiet, or ask SW to have a word?
Oooh sympathies nmt.... Can't see the logic tbh not sentimental to child or of any real use either!??
Sorry not a f/c carer but still don't "get it " I would be asking s/w to tactfully have a word ( course that will depend on weather s/w will actually tell bf or "feel it might be too painful so they will wait & tackle it later when she thinks they are stronger!! " )
Good a Luck.... I am picturing you trying to skwish this huge pile of 'stuff' into storage containers :- to no avail & looking on despondently at the carnage.... Hugs xx
I have in the past received inappropriately aged/sized toys and clothes and usually speak to the child's sw and ask them to return to bp's. I have had offers of equipment, or bp's wanting their child to use the equipment they have bought for the child, but the reality is that I have enough equipment and cannot store duplicates so I always politely decline the equipment, even when (as has been tried) sw's say I should use it. but I have had mutterings of being 'cluttered' before now so at least my fsw is on my side on this one! where contact has takne place at my home then I do allow bp's to use their own buggies etc, but they take them home at night as I am not known as the pram lady around here for nothing and another pram/buggy is just one too many!!
foster carer for babies and toddlers, and also an adoptive parent.
Thanks everyone, I've had a word with SW and she's agreed that anything broken can be binned - child is happily helping with this - a minor miracle in itself!
We decided to put tent up outside so the rain doesn't keep us inside during the holidays. Then I realised I've no idea how to put up an "old" tent! Luckily a friend was looking for a cheap tent so hopefully we can loan it out for the summer!