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sending "turn up" vibes

Can it be a surprise party - with the surprise being DS if he turns up?

Hope he does come xx

Yes I agree with the others......have a wonderful time regardless of whether DS turns up. Its your DH's day.

Larsti x

hope all went well - whoever turned up!

Phew.....just waved off the last stragglers...wonderful weekend - fantastic weather - and ds .....turned up!  Really thought he wouldn't as there was a lot of family and friends he hadn't seen for a long time so potentially awkward but no sign of that from him at least.  As usual gregarious and well mannered with everyone else.....My father in law was absolutely delighted to see him and very forgiving given he hasn't had so much as a card from ds in nearly 11 years and not seen him for 3 years - so a lot of sadness about that to manage for him as he has been very involved with both of mine even more so since mil died quite soon after the children were placed. 

Of course at this time talk in some quarters were of final exams and finishing a levels and going up to uni and gap years or summer breaks - you know how it goes ... It was good to see both my two hold their own talking confidently about their working and training experiences and leaving family, friends and familiar places and making new starts in new places especially - a lot of mature insights to share on that!  Fortunately we have a lot of nieces and nephews who left school at 16 and did apprenticeships or did their own thiing     ( fiercely independent) who are close in age and are all doing well in their own fields and charting their own destinies rather than following a more conventional path so my two have found their niche. 

Did allow myself a fleeting gloat I have to admit to you all .... Really couldn't contain myself so will consider my penance all the washing and cleaning up ....when my sis in law (who has never considered any of us but especially these non blood muggle adoptees - as family and has huge issues around additional needs or lac/ adopted children - a teacher btw..and previously a senco no less ..) was moaning about funding her children's summer breaks before uni (and running them here there and everywhere and the fact they won't even get a Saturday job or wash a dish at home ) and asked ds whether he had any plans for a holiday knowing full well how getting him in a car to an airport let alone a plane required a plan of military precision to achieve.  Oh yes says ds nonchantly - off to Rome to see the archaeological sites etc as it's on my bucket list says he.  Oh who are you going with - going on my own says he....booked himself a hotel car park package as a horrible flight time ...and driving himself in the old run around he has bought himself  - well she didn't have a lot to say after that...
ok probably funded by cash converters or wronga and maybe more to the trip than he is letting on given past experiences but notwithstanding progress!  Priceless moment though and a long time coming!

Dd had her day made she said because she got a moment to chat with ds  whilst he stepped outside to have a sneaky puff - he respects our zero tolerance zone and always goes and stands by the garage if he needs to.  She said we just chatted about work and stuff like game of thrones as both avid fans - he was jealous of her trip to iceland - she was jealous of his upcoming trip to Rome -  and he wasn't actually mean to her and didn't drop any birth family bombshells...albeit it doesn't mean he  won't the next time....

and dh - well still no actual birthday card but a bottle of wine from ds - but happy and tired after all the stress of it all and probably a little more pragmatic about not getting a Father's Day card yet again or maybe not seeing ds for another while - such is our life.

And me - well feel like I have a thousand tears of happiness and sadness too just swishing about inside of me along with all the summer punch...but too physically and emotionally shattered to even have a boo as still lots to do - will quietly unpack my stuff at some point - but mainly just happy that we are still inching forwards and that sometimes just sometimes there can be a conjunction of planets that albeit a rare event includes an odd little outlier called planet adoption.

Heartfelt thanks to  all of you for the really positive vibes from all of your posts here - it really helped to know I was in your thoughts and you guys were hoping along with me - a really big hug to you all - ooh silly me - a tear or too is beginning to leak out now ...

much love and strength to you all dear chums

mxx


 
 

Mayan,

Thanks for the update. Sounds like a great day was had by all.

Fab that DS turned up and held his own and astounded everyone with his summer plans.

Give yourself a well deserved pat on the back for your part in all of this. He wouldn't have gotten where he is if it wasn't for mum and dad and all you have done for him.

I loved reading about your SIL, would have loved to have been a fly on the wall for that conversation, silly moo and she's really a SENCO! God help the kids in her care.

And so glad your DH had a good birthday too.

Tears in my eyes as I read your post over breakfast! Yay. Sooooo glad it was a good day, that DS turned up etc etc. SiL conversation pure bonus!