Photos - what do you allow?

Initially we were very strict about photos because it was thought ds2 bf might threaten placement if he came around. But nothing ever happened, and once ds2 became old enough to be embarrassed about standing out at school, we asked photographer to let him in, but position him is here he wouldn't be too obvious.
We eventually loosened it for local things like school special events in local paper. As it's unlikely bf would see this.

I also asked the scout troop leader to not post anything online, but said that I was fine with photos in the scout hall.

I think you have to weigh up your own risk level.

In the early stages I used to be far more cautious, but got less and less so as the years went on.

Unless your BF live nearby, the chances of them seeing any school photo's are really slim. As long as the children are nit named and they are just general photo's I don't see much risk and think singling out your child to be excluded from the group photo's may do more harm than good IMO.

I don't have any problem with photos being taken and used for school purposes. I requested no photos on school website , Facebook etc, not for any particular adoption security issues. It's more that I'm old Luddite, I don't understand the need to have every second of your child's life plastered all over social media and have more concerns about unsavoury people trawling the web for photos of children for other purposes, rather than birth mum

Photos but no name here.

Ours are quite little and it is thought that BP's aren't an abduction or violent risk. They are also out of area are gently cautious...

We do let nursery take end of term pics and email them to other parents, but have asked that the email states not to upload them to any social media site as nursery policy, rather than singling out Squirrel and Howler as the reason not to.

One of George's messy play groups takes a pic of each chd with their art every week and emails it to the parent, they are not used anywhere else... That's fine by me.
 
Our baby yoga group has a photographer mum who takes the most beautiful pics for the website... She gives any v obvious ones of Howler to me personally and the leader is v understanding and will check if a pic of Howler is ok to use on her FB page... Howler tucked away in the background or from an angle where her face isn't distinct is usually fine by me.

I photograph the kids all the time, I can't help it, they are so gorgeous and I'm a terrible 'sharent' I have a secret group on Facebook where only selected people can see, I post pics there.and that's where anyone who wants to post pics of my children can post them, only there not on the main site And friends and family have been v good about not putting pics of my children anywhere else.

We also use Whatsapp with my family and we all post pics and videos in our private conversations...

No pics in contact letters and I send postcard pictures of our kids for stuff like valentines and thank you cards, but always put them in envelopes rather than sending them as postcards. 

I don't worry re the actual photos and never have as mine were last seen by bf as babies and there are no known security risks. However they both have unusual first names so we don't allow names to be published with the photos if they are anywhere on the internet. So I don't put their photos on Facebook, not that I use it much. There is face recognition software apparently - and dd1 looks remarkably like her bm, and I wouldn't want bm to trace her, though from what I know that seems unlikely. We don't have a photo of dd2's bm, although her sw said she looks nothing like her, but we also know very little about her or rest of family, so they could be trawling for her name.