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Post by knight on Apr 1, 2014 21:16:16 GMT
......doesn't it when you're waiting?? Met FF at Exchange Day 2 weeks ago who chatted for a long time about a little munchkin, she wasn't being profiled that day so no competition from that event plus FF said she got a good feeling about me from our meeting and there's no-one else in picture: well I suppose, at least, until we all decide what we think. Have seen a CPR for another child (too close for comfort + some other issues I'm not happy about) and another CPR is with my SW - but I've said I don't want that bringing round as I want/need to know more about munchkin. Had another long chat with her FF last week and she specifically asked if I was considering any other children; she was pleased that I said I didn't want to look at any other children until I knew more about this one. FF has asked me extra questions so it's all very helpful on both sides to have these open chats directly. She's given me a lot of info so far (she's not pulling punches either) and I've asked for explanations as to what certain phrases mean for this little child specifically - but the more she says, the more I want to be this precious LO's mummy. Some of you might remember my post on the old boards about a 'Straightforward Child': this one isn't but I feel equipped ( as much as anyone can be I guess) to deal with what's thrown at me and will push for what support we need, not that I'll need to at all as we've already discussed it, they've been forthcoming and I've actually suggested what they might want to sub-contract out to my LA hehehe. I've given a lot of thought already as to how I could meet this LO's specific needs and just in general 'talking out loud' FF seemed quite touched. LO's had her stat medical (so no extra delay there) so just waiting for the updated CPR: I'm not expecting too many surprises in light of our meeting/chat but I will be reading it with bated breath just in case. Anyway, FF on annual leave until next week so her SW isn't likely to send CPR until then. . . . . . it may not come to anything but, it just might. My SW said FF had emailed her and seemed quite keen - so you never know. Keep everything crossed guys - I know we often talk about "the one" but seriously, I believe she just could be. x
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Post by esty (archive) on Apr 1, 2014 21:29:17 GMT
Ohhhh sounds exciting!
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Post by Deleted on Apr 1, 2014 21:49:38 GMT
Oh wow Knight, you think munchkin might be it - how exciting!!!!!
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Post by serrakunda on Apr 1, 2014 22:31:37 GMT
Yes ! It took Simba's SWs five months to decide to come and see me, they had absolutely no one else remotely interested in him, but he was indeed the one and was worth the wait. Fingers crossed
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Post by knight on Apr 1, 2014 22:43:58 GMT
I know JMK: and, I told SW that, for me (I know we're all different but) I need to see photo and video as I do want to feel a bit of a connection: but was 'hooked' just from hearing about her. Seeing her profile the following day just made me melt. I so hope munchkin is the one because if not, the next profile has big boots to fill (heck).
Oh no Serrakunda - don't say that ~ It would be nice to have a summer placement and then slowly introduce munchkin to school. If it's right - it'll be right (does that make sense?) so we'll see.
Tks Esty.
x
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Post by moo on Apr 2, 2014 4:36:58 GMT
Awe knight sounding sooo positive.... Ff asking you the right Q to show she thinks there is a connection ( pleased you are not looking at any other cpr's) Munchkin's s/w will know from ff that you & her have spoken a few times.... I personally would be surprised if she hasn't instructed s/w to send the CPR & Photos to you whilst she is away so that things could start to move once she returns...
Hang in this really is the worst if times wishing hoping & hanging in....
Do do keep us posted if CPR comes...... ( I deffo had the feel & as soon as I saw baa & skweeks cpr's oooohhhhhh )
Good a Luck.....
xx. moo. Xx
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Post by ladybug on Apr 2, 2014 18:14:47 GMT
Oh how exciting Knight! I know how the wait feels, we saw the CPR for "our" LO 5 weeks ago and are still waiting to meet her SW!
Hope yours moves faster.
Good luck and keep us updated.
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Post by serrakunda on Apr 2, 2014 18:21:58 GMT
To be fair once they came out they motored, I had a situation at work where the terms and conditions were changing on 1 April, and not to my benefit, so they steamed ahead to get placement day before March 31 so I could retain the better terms and conditions
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Post by sivier on Apr 2, 2014 18:41:13 GMT
Same with us knight....once LO was identified as a possible match it stalled slightly then suddenly all moved at some speed. Good luck and fingers crossed for you.
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Post by knight on Apr 2, 2014 19:25:40 GMT
Yes Moo: I was secretly hoping SW might have been told to do that but decided not to attach too much weight to the thought so, if it comes sooner, great. The profile did have a couple of photos though so that’s really good.
Ladybug: oh no, that must seem like forever and still waiting in your situation must be so hard.
I’m glad yours gathered pace Serrakunda as you say and worked for your advantage at the last minute. Ignoring the impatient side in most people: it just seems such a shame in situations when it takes very many months just to get to the starting post: 5 months is far too long: I know SWs are very busy and need to focus their attentions on children for whom proceedings need to be instigated but still, 5 months in the life of a child is such a long time that he/she is losing building bonds with new family. Obviously, I’m very early doors and FF emailed me very late at night and some ungodly hour the next morning so I’m not remotely having a go.
Thanks Sivier: hopefully it will be the same for me too: I just hope with all my heart that we all continue to think that this is possibly a good link and take it further.
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Post by moo on Apr 3, 2014 4:00:05 GMT
Hugs knight hang in.... {{{{}}}}
Still got everything crossed this side of the screen for you..... Xx
xx. moo. Xx
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Post by Deleted on Apr 3, 2014 7:39:07 GMT
Oooooh Knight, you sound just like an expectant Mum.
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Post by twoplustwo on Apr 3, 2014 12:06:31 GMT
Very exciting, and such a difficult time, waiting and being unable to hurry things along is such a frustrating time. Keep posting - we are all waiting with you now.
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Post by knight on Apr 3, 2014 18:55:37 GMT
Ahh thank you. I happen to have a tiny piece of information which I think munchkin's FF needs to have to update my PAR following our last chat: so a quick email might be in order so it's serves as an extra reminder on her return that I need the CPR, hehehehe
JMK: us expectant mothers have to do looooots of nesting, hey ho: so the spending continues !!!! the dining table is piled 3 layers high now with stuff, pending decorating her room Easter weekend. I'll have to keep some things back for Christmas otherwise, it's a bit ridiculous...!!!!! Lots of interactive stuff though to promote eye contact, laughter, warm nurturing things etc: I thought, cos she's only little, I might get the Little Miss books, which I thought might help understand emotions (practice pointing to some of the pictures when I know she's experiencing certain obvious emotions; pretend at others, which will specifically help this little munchkin at least ()
Anyway, hopefully I've got a little more news early next week. x
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Post by sockthing on Apr 3, 2014 18:59:08 GMT
Good luck knight! Keep us posted.
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Post by knight on Apr 4, 2014 18:43:39 GMT
Great, got CPR now: no surprises from what I've already been told which is a relief; need some elaboration on some points but more to help paint the picture and a couple of other medical points I want clarification on, my SW and I are to speak Monday and take it from there. Munchkin's FF back then so we'll see what they thought of my PAR and where we go from here. Flipping hard reading though, poor little munchkin x
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Post by Deleted on Apr 4, 2014 18:58:44 GMT
Good that there were no surprises in there Knight.
Monday will be a big talking day then and hopefully you'll have news for us soon.
Yes it's hard reading what they've been through. You are sounding like her Mum, already so protective.
Get the paint brushes out and get cracking!!!!!
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Post by knight on Apr 4, 2014 20:18:25 GMT
Yes definitely JMK: I do feel protective of (I'm trying to avoid saying 'my') little munchkin just in case FF & SW change their mind: but I feel just as strongly about her and I'm pleased that at least I have those feelings because if everyone does go forward, it'll be a great starting point for intros and beyond. She really deserves a nice family life and I truly hope I get to be the one who can give her that......ooooohhhhh, I'll let you know. I need to re-read several times yet, it's a lot to take in before Monday's chat. x
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Post by ladybug on Apr 5, 2014 9:26:27 GMT
All sounds promising Knight. Fingers crossed for you.
Ladybug x x
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Post by moo on Apr 5, 2014 16:48:21 GMT
So pleased to hear that you have the long awaited CPR.... Whoopee Monday big pow wow day....
Sending you lorry loads of luck.... Can't wait for your update.....
Everythings Crossed
Xx. moo. Xx
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Post by knight on Apr 10, 2014 17:37:15 GMT
Well, ever so slightly gutted: all positive about meeting me, reading my PAR, blah, blah but wanted someone who can be there after school for munchkin and possibly during the day at the drop of a hat: sounds like a stay at home mum to me which I would absolutely love to be but it's just not possible. I specifically asked whether they were just looking for a 2 parent family at the outset and she said no: a 1 or a 2 parent family. What is rather annoying is that, as you can tell from the start of this thread, FF and I had a long chat when it was made clear what job I do, the need to return to work and my SW even elaborated on the financial support needed during AL if longer time was needed, etc. So having done direct work with this LO, therefore knowing her a little better than perhaps some FFs might: why not stop the conversation at that point or, cut the subsequent telephone chat dead or, speak to seniors as a first port of call rather than wasting everyone's time reading reports, let alone the emotional energy?? Not a happy bunny but will pick myself and start over. I've now made it clear: any child's SW needs to read my PAR first and confirm they're interested beforehand.
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Post by serrakunda on Apr 10, 2014 18:13:03 GMT
Oh dear , is it all definitely off. Would they not consider an adoption allowance. I work 23 hours a week over 4 days and receive an adoption allowance which takes me back up to my full time salary. I am there when Simba gets home from school and he does one after school club for an hour. They wanted someone to be at home a fair bit so they had to pay up.
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Post by ladybug on Apr 10, 2014 18:36:21 GMT
Oh Knight so sorry to hear that. I know how awful it feels after last week's news of the LO we were interested in. Just try to think positive, there is a LO waiting for you! XoxoxoX
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Post by knight on Apr 10, 2014 18:45:46 GMT
Serrakunda: I actually asked my SW to go back with that precise suggestion: I'll PM you x
Thanks Ladybug, hard isn't it?? x
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Post by moo on Apr 10, 2014 18:51:22 GMT
Grrrrr oh no knight gutted for you too...
Sometimes I think they just see adopters to make themselves look busy.... They seem to lose sight that we are real people too!!!
So so annoying as you clearly had this angle covered... Why didn't they listen??? Bonkers!!!
Hang in.... As serrakunda says it is doable they will just have to find some Xtra cash!!.
Hugs for you..... Go wallop a cushion or 10!!....
xxx. moo. Xx
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Post by ladybug on Apr 10, 2014 20:16:15 GMT
Yes Knight it is so hard. Chin up and hang in there x x
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Post by kstar on Apr 10, 2014 21:22:01 GMT
Let's hope they think seriously about an adoption allowance then! Fingers crossed xx
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Post by knight on Apr 10, 2014 21:35:20 GMT
No kstar they won't.....i'll pm u x
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Post by knight on Apr 11, 2014 18:50:04 GMT
Oh, thanks guys. I know my LO is out there and when it's right, it'll be right. I'll still paint the bedroom next week, at least it'll give me something to keep busy with x
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Post by Deleted on Apr 14, 2014 14:47:37 GMT
Oh no Knight I'm gutted for you!! Have just been catching up and read this - That is sooooo unfair. Why on earth did they consider a singlie if they wanted someone at home then, that is so unfair to get your hopes up.
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