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Post by shadow on Sept 18, 2013 17:23:08 GMT
God grant me the serenity
to accept the things I cannot change;
courage to change the things I can;
and wisdom to know the difference.
Living one day at a time;
enjoying one moment at a time;
accepting hardships as the pathway to peace;
taking, as He did, this sinful world
as it is, not as I would have it;
trusting that He will make all things right
if I surrender to His Will;
that I may be reasonably happy in this life
and supremely happy with Him
forever in the next
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Post by jellies on Sept 18, 2013 17:35:38 GMT
Think I agree Shadow.
Thinking of you my friend.
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Post by haze on Sept 18, 2013 18:41:50 GMT
Am with you there Shadow.
{hugs}
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Post by lemonade on Sept 18, 2013 18:50:42 GMT
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Post by Deleted on Sept 18, 2013 20:13:44 GMT
To give and not to count the cost,
To fight and not to heed the wounds,
To toil and not to seek for rest,
To labour and not to ask for any reward,
Save that of know that we do your will......
Shadow your work hasn't gone unrecognised......
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Post by peartree on Sept 19, 2013 10:49:35 GMT
Oh Shadow. How lovely.
((((((((((())))))))))))
i dont know any words to make anything better.
i wish i did.
xxxxx
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Post by moo on Sept 19, 2013 10:52:47 GMT
{{{{{{shadow}}}}}}
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Post by greyspeckledhen on Sept 19, 2013 22:08:58 GMT
xxxxxxx
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Post by aprilshowers on Sept 20, 2013 14:24:08 GMT
(((((s))))))
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Post by serrakunda on Sept 20, 2013 15:07:53 GMT
hope you are OK
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Post by shadow on Sept 20, 2013 16:24:31 GMT
we are surprisingly fine
felt really at crisis point - had some good support from the wonderful Barnardos folk - stepped back from everything for 2 days - then yesterday insisted shadette and myself talk
we did - despite hostility for her at first
she is feeling angry that in her mind I am rejecting her and forcing her out - I reinforced that I am not - I just cant meet all her needs and her life is carp just now and she needs more help than I can give
we had a hug, and at the moment things are calmer
I also have a better idea on what s going on-and feeling better after the Barnardos support have had better communications with various services
Next week there is a meeting - which I will be at - will have another session with barnardos the day before and make a plan about what support we need while waiting for the decision about where shadette can go to meet her needs (it sounds like there is a VERY good possibility for young adults with MH issues - where she will get a lot of support , but it is a small specialist care home so we may need to wait)- I am going to be clear - if there is a wait - we will need a LOT of support - and that includes support for me and respite in the house so I can get away, and if Barnardos cant carry on supporting me, I need funding so I can get private support from the same therapist
The SW did listen to me - and I am clear that this time is going to be very difficult - shadette is terrified and behaving like she did when she moved in 9 years ago - old weird behaviours are returning
Sometimes going through the darkest, seeming impossible situation, can lead to a(temporary) easing of the awfulness
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Post by monkey on Sept 20, 2013 20:05:45 GMT
Have been thinking of you and Shadette.
Sending my very best wishes for a calm weekend.
MMx
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Post by knight on Sept 20, 2013 21:11:40 GMT
That sounds to be progress: not only on Shadette's part but that you sound to be being supported at long last; you sound a little more positive; I do hope they either put the support in place for you or agree to fund it; I'll be thinking of you both. Knight |
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Post by nancydanfan on Sept 21, 2013 8:50:11 GMT
Yes-stick to your insistence on good support. It will be tough but I do believe you are doing the right thing. The right thing can still be so hard though.
Hope it is some consolation that there is some planning involved in shadette moving out. Look after yourselves-thinking of you both
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Post by ham on Sept 21, 2013 10:23:31 GMT
A BEND IN THE ROAD
When we feel we have nothing left to give
and we are sure that the song has ended
When our day seems over and the shadows fall
and the darkness of night has descended
Where can we go to find the strength
to valiantly keep on trying
Where can we find the hand that will dry
the tears that the heart is crying
There’s but one place to go and that is to God
and dropping all pretense and pride
We can pour out our problems without restraint
and gain strength with Him at our side
And together we stand at life’s crossroads
and view what we think is the end
But God has a much bigger vision
and He tells us it’s only a bend
For the road goes on and is smoother
and the pause in the song is a rest
And the part that’s unsung and unfinished
is the sweetest and richest and best
So rest and relax and grow stronger
let go and let God share your load
Your work is not finished or ended
you’ve just come to a bend in the road
Helen Steiner Rice
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