God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change; courage to change the things I can; and wisdom to know the difference.
Living one day at a time; enjoying one moment at a time; accepting hardships as the pathway to peace; taking, as He did, this sinful world as it is, not as I would have it; trusting that He will make all things right if I surrender to His Will; that I may be reasonably happy in this life and supremely happy with Him forever in the next
Mum to AD's Bubbles (29yrs) and Fizz (28yrs) (came aged 6 & 7yrs). Now Grandma to GD Miss Bubbles (9 yrs) she lives with Daddy Bubbles & GS master Bubbles (6 yrs) he was in fc from 3 months old for a year, now returned to live with sister Miss Bubbles & Daddy Bubbles they all have no contact with Bubbles. Bubbles and new partner now have tiny bubbles SS on board. AD Fizz has DD Miss Fizz 3 yr old. Fizz has really turned her life around having finally got out of DA relationship.
Post by aprilshowers on Sept 20, 2013 14:24:08 GMT
Mum to 3. DS, Bigly (21), DD, Middly (19), & DD, Littly (18) with sibling trauma bond, (placed at 8, 6, & 5) none of them are living with us anymore, some contact with all of them but very much on their terms. Grandparents and enjoying it.
felt really at crisis point - had some good support from the wonderful Barnardos folk - stepped back from everything for 2 days - then yesterday insisted shadette and myself talk
we did - despite hostility for her at first
she is feeling angry that in her mind I am rejecting her and forcing her out - I reinforced that I am not - I just cant meet all her needs and her life is carp just now and she needs more help than I can give
we had a hug, and at the moment things are calmer
I also have a better idea on what s going on-and feeling better after the Barnardos support have had better communications with various services
Next week there is a meeting - which I will be at - will have another session with barnardos the day before and make a plan about what support we need while waiting for the decision about where shadette can go to meet her needs (it sounds like there is a VERY good possibility for young adults with MH issues - where she will get a lot of support , but it is a small specialist care home so we may need to wait)- I am going to be clear - if there is a wait - we will need a LOT of support - and that includes support for me and respite in the house so I can get away, and if Barnardos cant carry on supporting me, I need funding so I can get private support from the same therapist
The SW did listen to me - and I am clear that this time is going to be very difficult - shadette is terrified and behaving like she did when she moved in 9 years ago - old weird behaviours are returning
Sometimes going through the darkest, seeming impossible situation, can lead to a(temporary) easing of the awfulness
That sounds to be progress: not only on Shadette's part but that you sound to be being supported at long last; you sound a little more positive; I do hope they either put the support in place for you or agree to fund it; I'll be thinking of you both. Knight
When we feel we have nothing left to give and we are sure that the song has ended When our day seems over and the shadows fall and the darkness of night has descended Where can we go to find the strength to valiantly keep on trying Where can we find the hand that will dry the tears that the heart is crying
There’s but one place to go and that is to God and dropping all pretense and pride We can pour out our problems without restraint and gain strength with Him at our side And together we stand at life’s crossroads and view what we think is the end
But God has a much bigger vision and He tells us it’s only a bend For the road goes on and is smoother and the pause in the song is a rest And the part that’s unsung and unfinished is the sweetest and richest and best
So rest and relax and grow stronger let go and let God share your load Your work is not finished or ended you’ve just come to a bend in the road
Helen Steiner Rice
Single mum to a mixture of BC and AC all young adults.