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Post by corkwing on Mar 18, 2014 15:48:22 GMT
Thought I'd let you know a bit of what's happening.
Mackerel's been in foster care for just over a year, now. He's managed to break down two placements and I think that Social Services are starting to understand that he's not, as it says on his paperwork, a normal 13 year old who gets a bit stroppy sometimes.
Next try is a children's home as there will be more staff to handle him and they get a break!
Hope it goes well...
Love,
Corkwing
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Post by esty (archive) on Mar 18, 2014 16:10:28 GMT
Lovely to hear from you again Corkwing. I'd wondered where you were and how your family was doing?
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Post by sooz on Mar 18, 2014 16:34:59 GMT
Hi there, lovely to see you. Sending hugs xx
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Post by mayan on Mar 18, 2014 16:43:29 GMT
Good to hear you are still standing Corkwing but sad to hear about Mackerel. Hope you all get the support you need to stay connected in a positive way.
Look after yourself
All good wishes to you and the family.
Mx
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Post by pluto on Mar 18, 2014 18:40:06 GMT
Never realised that a corkwing is a fish! Nice to see you back!
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Post by sockthing on Mar 18, 2014 19:55:44 GMT
Good to 'see' you corkwing.
Sorry to hear mackerel is finding life tough, must be painful for you too.
How are the rest of your brood, and how are YOU?
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Post by twoplustwo on Mar 18, 2014 20:39:59 GMT
Really pleased to 'see' you here Corkwing. I've often wondered about how things were going.
Sorry that things are still not going well for Mackerel - although on the plus side SS's belief that Mackerel wasn't the problem is being blown out of the water.
Hope that you, Kermit and the rest of the aquarium are ok.
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Post by monkey on Mar 18, 2014 21:27:19 GMT
Hi Corkwing. Good to hear from you. MMx
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Post by justbserene11 on Mar 18, 2014 21:28:32 GMT
Hi corkwing!
You gave me some very supportive advice on the other place. Glad to see you here and sending yo and your family hugs re: Mackerel
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Post by mrmlegal on Mar 18, 2014 22:18:25 GMT
Good to see you find your way over here but sorry to hear Mackerel is still struggling.
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Post by larsti on Mar 18, 2014 23:20:31 GMT
Good to see you on here Corkwing!
I am not on either board as much as I used to be on the old boards....probably a good thing!!
I hope the children's home is a positive move for Mackerel. Thinking of 'doing family' being so hard for him.
Sending support from our household to yours.
Larsti and DH x
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Post by daffin on Mar 19, 2014 4:43:28 GMT
Hi corkwing
Lovely to see you here. I used to enjoy reading your posts on 'the other side'. Sorry to hear about Mackerel.
As others say, there must be some kind of bitter gratification that SSs are having to recognise that he's quite complex.
I hope you and the rest of the family have been able to stay strong and are looking after yourselves.
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Post by Deleted on Mar 19, 2014 6:58:14 GMT
Hi Corkwing and welcome. Glad to see you made it over to the bright side. Sad that you have now been vindicated and that FC's are now seeing what you'd been living with with Mackerel, but you know you did your best for him for as long as you could. I'm sure your other children are now benifitting from a lighter atmosphere at home and I'm hoping yourself and Kermit are making the most of more normality within your home. You'll be surprised to hear that I am now a Section 20 mum and both my DD's are in care at the moment. EDD in a care home and YDD FC, so if you have any questions just ask. Looking forward to seeing you around the boards. Are you here to stay or just passing through? jmk
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Post by corkwing on Mar 19, 2014 10:30:57 GMT
So how am I doing? Really well! I saw a really good life coach for about a year and she helped me to look at things very differently and address things in my own life. That's helped me to make a dramatic difference. So much so that I'm considering changing careers and becoming a life coach myself. Particularly as my company's decided to move abroad to get away from me so I'll be made redundant sometime this year.
Kermit is still struggling in many ways. She finds it hard when she can't be there to love and support Mackerel. So she's finding it tough at the moment. Social Services, for reasons that seem good to them, have decided to move Mackerel to a children's home about 10 minutes walk from us, so it's extremely likely that he'll be turning up on our doorstep. (Yes, we did point out the many problems that causes but were met with lots of sweet faces and blather about rules and firm boundaries). She will find it very hard to turn him away, particularly if he's upset.
Fairy Basslet is quite down. She hasn't developed her own personality and sense of self, which is hard for her. We're trying to teach her to say "No", rather than "I don't mind". It'll be a valuable life skill!
Sprat blew up quite spectacularly when Mackerel moved out and it's taken us a long time to try to get him back down again. He has to a large extent, but also inhabits the space the Mackerel left.
The rest of the family are a mixture...
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Post by moo on Mar 19, 2014 12:22:54 GMT
Hey Corkwing so thrilled to see you here....
Tuff news to read about Mackerel.... Big big hugs for you Kermit sprat & fairy basslet....
Hope you choose to stay awhile so very many familiar friends are here ....
Lovin' your news about life coach.... Think you will be great at it..... Please write us a poem or three....love the whackiest of humour yours were always getting me reaching for the tena ladies!!!
Things don't change with SS.... Bonkers news that mackerel will be so very close poor Kermit....
Hugs to all
xx. moo. Xx
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Post by sivier on Mar 19, 2014 12:28:30 GMT
Hey Corkwing So nice to see you here!
It sounds pretty full on with the children. Hope Mackerel will be ok in the Children's Home ... it's very tricky for you and Kermit to have him so close and to maybe have to turn him away - gosh that's hard, what were SS thinking?
Great that you've found a potential new direction career-wise, it sounds really interesting - good luck with that.
Sivier
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Post by Deleted on Mar 19, 2014 17:21:47 GMT
Blimey 10 minutes away, that sounds too close for comfort. Is that really a wise move? Glad to hear you sounding so positive and together Corky. Think you'd be great as a life coach, you've certainly seen enough. Loved you saying your company are moving abroad to get away from you - made me laugh as I've missed your quirky sense of humour.
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Post by mamab on Mar 20, 2014 12:03:04 GMT
So nice to read your news. Your kindness and wise words defined the old boards for me and I was only wondering the other day where you were and how your children were doing. As hard as it is not having Mackeral at home, I really hope you all continue to benefit from the distance although as others are saying a home 10 minutes away seems very ill thought out. I think you will make a wonderful life coach - will you be offering us all a Friends and Family discount?!
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Post by corkwing on Mar 20, 2014 13:43:06 GMT
Not sure about a discount, but I might be offering cheap or free sessions while I'm training - if I decide to go down that route.
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Post by soon2be3 on Mar 20, 2014 18:30:21 GMT
Great to hear from you but sorry life is so difficult at the moment. I love reading your view on life and adoption and would love you to be my life coach!
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Post by milly on Mar 20, 2014 21:12:35 GMT
Good to hear from you again. Hope you'll be sticking around - I always found your posts stimulating.
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Post by knight on Mar 21, 2014 8:03:40 GMT
Hi, it's good to hear how you are all doing. Very difficult for all of you with Mackerel and can understand why Kermit is struggling: as others have said, being 10 minutes away doesn't sound healthy or sensible for all concerned, including Mackerel: it's a bit like when parents split and live very close-by, it makes it much easier for them to play one off against the other. Firm boundaries are easier to instill when there's at least a little bit of geographical distance. I hope you're staying around and not passing through.
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Post by aprilshowers on Apr 11, 2014 7:16:04 GMT
gentle hugs to you and yours my dear friend.
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Post by phoebe on Apr 28, 2014 22:42:02 GMT
Hey Corkwing! Great timing! lol I haven't been around a lot lately as DS had to go to a specialist therapeutic school and couldn't come to our old home anymore, so we've been trcking around the country at weekends and hols for about a year now! Finally moving house, which will make things easier but in itself a nightmare! Wonder if DS's school coudl be a better solution than a childrens home for Mackerel? There are lots of other boys who go "home" to FC on their weekends out. Great place, caring staff,costs a packet for the LA! MAybe worth considering? Glad to see you here but sorry Kermit is struggling. Good luck with the career change; and with Mackerel. x
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Post by corkwing on Apr 29, 2014 13:56:42 GMT
Hi, Ginger - Sounds like things are tough for you. Hope you're getting some support from those around you.
Phoebe - Sounds similar to when one of our kids was in hospital long term. It's really hard bombing around all over the place to be near to them, isn't it? Our ideal solution would be a therapeutic school/community but we don't have professionals backing us up so it seems unlikely unless something goes drastically wrong at the care home.
Love,
Corkwing
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Post by peartree on May 1, 2014 21:47:11 GMT
Much love to aquarium xx.
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