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Post by swimchic on Feb 24, 2014 12:26:02 GMT
Hello all,
We saw Pinks last foster family yesterday. We had a lovely time and Pink thoroughly enjoyed herself..
We were discussing something with the fc and they mentioned that they did a daily log of Pink when she was with them.
Do we have the right to request them?
Does anyone know?
Swimchic x |
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Post by loadsofbubs on Feb 24, 2014 14:27:49 GMT
it should be kept on record with the rest of pinks files. that said some foster carers I know still have files going back years becoz no one asked for them back (which doesn't mean they shouldn't have handed them in!). I now do mine on the computer and print them out monthly so have copies of themselves after everything that went so pear shaped with the bbs and her file had to move with her so I had no written evidence to fall back on. but whether you are allowed access or not I don't know, certainly pink will be entitled to it once she's 18, you i'm not so sure as its a record of day to day life more than anything else and rarely contains any info that wouldnt be kept on file elsewhere. but no harm in asking.
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Post by swimchic on Feb 24, 2014 16:10:37 GMT
Thanks loads of bubs...
We seem to have to keep asking for things at the mo and I'm starting to sound like a broken record!
Thanks for your help, best wishes
Swimchic
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Post by nomoretears on Feb 24, 2014 20:02:32 GMT
I always hand mine over to new parents when a child is adopted. I know it's day to day life but I think that's probably more use to new parents now rather than waiting on a file for 18 years.
Be warned though, mine are very honest and not always nice reading. I record any disclosures in there, any comments made by birth parents, any difficulties the child is having. On the flip side there's also all the nice things that happen each day too and I think they give the most "real" picture of the child there is.
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Post by leo on Feb 24, 2014 20:03:03 GMT
Yes, you have the right to have them. I have them for my boys - and they are very telling (and gave me lots of information about their behaviour on going into care).
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Post by donatella on Feb 24, 2014 20:08:44 GMT
We have middlys and littlys. Middlys is particularly useful as he had a lot of ongoing contact so we have a record of that - with comments from bm as well
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Post by wibbley on Feb 24, 2014 21:17:17 GMT
I have copies of both of mine. I have a feeling they are not in their entirety for DD, but it's good to have all the same.
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Post by loadsofbubs on Feb 25, 2014 7:37:21 GMT
we are not allowed to hand ours over to new parents, not even allowed to hand them over to non LA fc's if the child moves on to agency carers, which is why I was taken by surprise when the bbs's had to be handed over when she moved (LA carers) and as I only found out 5 mins before she moved there was no time to copy relevant bits for my own records but that's by the by!
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Post by flutterby on Feb 27, 2014 14:39:01 GMT
I have been very fortunate that I have now been given this log 8 months into the process. I wish I had received it on moving in. There is so much useful information here and brings butterfly's early life really into focus. - It makes it so much more real what/whom she actually lost when she moved in with us. I think we could have made things easier for her had I had this information right from the start. Feeling very humble and sad today. Also, I now know when most of her firsts occurred. 2 hours of reading worthwhile just to extract those. Now I can confidently tell her when she asks one day when she took her first steps etc.
It also documents very clearly - and this is important - why certain decisions regarding her life had to be taken. No jargon, just the plain words from her foster carer, who took great pains not to come across as scathing towards certain people, only stating facts.
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Post by enid on Feb 27, 2014 18:59:42 GMT
Well, never heard of them, even after 4 adoptions and been on a panel for years, just shows, you learn something new every day!
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Post by imp on Feb 27, 2014 19:32:10 GMT
Our LA takes them in once the child has moved from me, wherever they go, and puts them in the child's file.
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Post by nomoretears on Feb 27, 2014 20:22:31 GMT
I think we're supposed to hand ours in but as Flutterby said, there's so much useful information in there that's relevant to now rather than in 18 years time, that mine just happen to get packed with all the other "essentials" like photo albums and paperwork.
My logs are really detailed for precisely this reason.
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