Intro's Diary - Nomoretear's - Foster Carer

Thank you so much for sharing this so honestly and openly.
It is so valuable for new adopters to see.

Sending you hugs and a good nights sleep.

Hope all goes well tomorrow with the new placements and you find some time to yourself at some point to grieve for your loss.

Xx

NMT I hope you are okay.

What a hard job is that you foster carers do.
It sounds as though Jane is in the right place - I hope this continues to give you comfort.
I hope also that J and J get in touch soon.

I know that I will be forever indebted to my AD's foster carer and much of the reason she is the brilliant little girl she is now, is because of the love, care, sensitivity and concern they showed her when she was so very vulnerable.

A heartfelt thank you. xx

Thanks for the lovely comments everyone.
Hopefully it'll help other, nervous, prospective adopters see that the foster carers of your little ones have just as many silly worries as you do!

JMK, I don't usually like a break between placements but could probably have done with one this time! However things are a bit up in the air in my LA at the moment, lots of very experienced carers waiting for ages for placements, so I didn't think I could say no.

Plus the children's SW had requested they come to me (bit of a worry in itself! I don't know her and don't know whether its a compliment or whether she thinks I'm mad enough to take on difficult placements!!)

Thanks so much for posting this nmt - had me in tears. I hope your new placement is going well and I hope that you've heard from Janet & John. You FCs are a very special lot!

Absolutely NMT: I made a mental note to do that when my turn comes: I may even had put it in my written list of 'things to do' from one of the previous threads! You don't stop worrying and wondering how they're doing days/weeks/months in and I'm sure it is nice to have that reassurance directly. It's good to know that all is well with them though.

How are you doing with your new placement? Hope you're ok

x

our adoption team always tell adopters to text within 24 hours to say all is well.  its done at the mid point review in a way that I find excruciatingly embarrassing and patronising, in a kind of 'there there' hand patting way as if a text will aliviate the loss for us.  but anyway, at least they do say to do it. and to be fair all my bubs, bar the bbs, have had parents/carers who were thoughtful enough to do more than this and have all sent several texts and emails/photos in the first few months.  nothing stops us from worrying but it does help to know that we haven't just been completely wiped out of a child's life. that first text though, while nice to get does always leave me wondering, if all is well then there must be problems coz the baby should be missing me and if they're not then that's not good, and if I was told there were problems (never have been told this!) then why tell me coz nothing I can do about it.  contrary creature that I am!!

Hi all, only just realised I hadn't updated here to say I have had contact from Janet and John (weeks and weeks ago, and several times since!) They were worried they'd upset me by getting in touch sooner, and didn't want to hassle me. Hassle away I say!

Anyway, all is going really well - tantrums and fights a plenty but also lots of good times too.

Oh, how lovely, thanks for the update; glad all is going well and they are keeping in touch x