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Post by sooz on Feb 4, 2014 1:27:47 GMT
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Post by Deleted on Feb 4, 2014 9:29:54 GMT
Gosh a hell of a lot in there.
Quite a lot of it resonated with me about EDD, but then bits of it didn't.
I suppose this is why CAMHS struggle to diagnose as some symptoms overlap and some don't.
Interesting though.
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Post by oysterbabe on Feb 4, 2014 10:33:50 GMT
Have printed off!
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Post by esty (archive) on Feb 24, 2014 14:11:50 GMT
Explains al lot of what is going on for my youngest. Though he is incredibly resilient and does have some sense of self and self worth.
Whether or not it's enough to continue the positive route he is taking at present is yet to be seen.
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Post by nzhb on Apr 12, 2014 21:30:45 GMT
I, too have printed these off.
BUT given the difficulties that we are having with our DD currently, none of it fills me with much hope for us as a family forever.
I may read, may understand, may try & empathise, but I can't undo the past experiences of my child, nor re route her 'faulty wiring'.
How long any one can is a mystery to me.
If all prospective adopters read this & truly understood the implications, I fear the adoption system would grind to a halt.
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Post by greyspeckledhen on Jun 22, 2014 21:21:15 GMT
Yep - this is my middly. Very well written.
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Post by larsti on Jul 1, 2014 9:12:45 GMT
How come I only just saw this?! One of the best things I've read. The bits about making their own reality was very telling. Also the constant talking/bizarre behaviours.  |
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Post by lemonade on Jul 2, 2014 20:17:51 GMT
Really good read and soooo true! The last comment especially sums up Bubbles "Avoid all personal responsibility by playing the victim role"!
Anyone know of an all cure pill  wouldn't it be wonderful and would make life so much more bearable.
Seriously though it's scary to think that children yet unborn will be dealt the AD hand that will affect them their whole life. So sad. |
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Post by mudlark on Jul 3, 2014 21:27:18 GMT
Excellent article, sadly it describes so much of Lapwing in particular, what the author didn't go on to say was if in his experience through theraplay and other psychological/emotional interventions it can be turned around
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Post by mooster on Jul 4, 2014 10:56:06 GMT
I found the whole Maryland Attachment website interesting reading and the functioning article sums up our AD. It was fascinating reading bits of it through with her, she is 17 and wanting to understand herself more, she recognised so many of her traits and it did have a positive impact in her realising she is not just a horrible person - I have done lots of gentle work on belief v truth - doing psychology A level has also been interesting - sections on maternal deprivation... Have a look at: www.attachmentdisordermaryland.com/parenting.htmwhich gives some ideas on parenting techniques |
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Post by milly on Jul 4, 2014 15:23:07 GMT
That looks really interesting Mooster. Had a quick read but will look at it again when I have more time.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 4, 2014 16:47:19 GMT
Wow there's a lot there Mooster - Will have to come back and have a read when I've more time. Thanks for the link.
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Post by lemonade on Jul 4, 2014 21:23:58 GMT
Sounds like it would have been helpful if we all had a degree in psychology to parent AD  and in an ideal world that should be part of adoption training. Reality is we are all trying to cope with the little or no knowledge to understand where our ad kids are coming from. 
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Post by lankelly on Jun 12, 2015 16:37:15 GMT
Just found this and had to bump it. Very good, very good info.Will be passing to school.
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wouldn't it be wonderful and would make life so much more bearable. 
and in an ideal world that should be part of adoption training. Reality is we are all trying to cope with the little or no knowledge to understand where our ad kids are coming from. 
